Brothers Marriage Life In Trouble

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My Brothers Marriage life is in very serious trouble. His wife is not at all interested in sexual life . He is been married 8 years now and they have a son.

She is very independent and bought up like a boy. She works and does all the house hold jobs .But when It comes to intimacy , she is not interested.

My brother is not happy with her. He stays far away and works in another Country. He comes very 3 months to his wifes place and still they both does not have that intimacy.




I have asked my brother to move back to his wifes place completely. But Its difficult to get a job in the wife place. He was been complaining about this to us few years back . But we did not involve because this is very very sensitive issue. But my brother recently told me that he started going to other women for sex.

I was shocked and very very upset. I do not want his life to be in trouble.

Now, We bought this issue to our parents and they are also very upset and not able to digest all these .

My brothers says that she can not be a good wife to me . But she can be a very good friend. he says will continue the relationship with her as good friend. he says that, he was the only one who admired her all the time. she is not interested in him. but not sure why she married him.

he still wants to stay with her. I told him to divorce and start new life. he is 37 year old. But he is not listening to me.

My only concern is - he is spoiling his health by going to other women. but this time, he promised me that he will not go to other women . But not sure for a male , is this possible ? can they stay with out sex?

I am totally worried about him. friends, please suggest me how to handle this issue,




Please suggest me how to solve this issue.




I wanted to talk openly to my brothers wife but she is not talking to me anything. we both are very friendly always. She talks everything to me except these matters.




please tell me how to resolve these disturbances. How can I control my brother?




He was very upset for doing that mistake of going to other women .so he was thinking of making surgeries for not getting those feelings . I am very very upset after hearing all these from him..




friends...please please help me.

 

She is not interested in going for counselling. Should I go one step forward and talk to her ? I wanted to know whats the problem from her side? as a lady, I wanted to know her inner feelings about my brother and their life.

I am scared that if she gets angry when i talk all these , then she will take revenge on my brother. He is also scared of her.

 

But he is not agreeing for divorce. He says he loves his kid like anything and he will sacrifice all for his kid.

Not sure , how practical to control the sexual desires . He is asking me if there is any surgery for not getting those desires.

Parents are saying that if he is not ready to marry again then it is his karma. we can not help him.
God..No One should get this problem !!!

 

Friends,

I have decided to go one step forward and discuss this issue with my brothers wife.
My husband says that I am involving too much . But I should do this for my brother right ?