Don't call video call him for his daughter. Why should you make his relationship with his daughter, for now, till you are not divorced- do not follow any schedule for video call. Call him on phone, and if he asks about daughter, say "she is at friend's house, busy, play date etc". This is to push his buttons and see how far he goes. On phone, do tell him calmly that you want the marriage to work. That you want to put in effort and hope he does too. About your parents, keep them away from him, he is leach kind of person. They will take all that they can and won't even thank or acknowledge. Instead will bad mouth their helper. These kind of people should never be helped. Keep your parents totally away, you take their help have relationship with them but keep him away. About the fact that he told everyone what goes on in your parents house, he has shown to his true colors- remember this- he is limitless in being crude and is not polished. He also looks at you as an outsider, a person targeted by his family, to meet his immigration goals. He really doesn't care about daughter, she is a very important piece in entire puzzle. These kind of people, don't want to divorce you, he won't leave you but he wants you to agree to all his terms in marriage and his families'. When you call him tell him that you want to work on marriage but few things will have to change, and say that you will redraw boundaries, so you can feel safe emotionally and otherwise. Also, mention that you guys should try separation for 6 months or so. But don't separate. Do not talk any other person than him, no BIL or SIL or MIL. If you have to talk, be reticent, talk less, be calm and let it weather talk. You are proving to them that you have boundaries and you want to keep them. Don't cry on phone or in front of anyone. These ILs of yours are very "chalu" meaning street smart people. They know what they are doing and work as a team. Their strength is their united front, team work, years of experience. YOur strength is that you stay in the country with your parents, where they are so desperately trying to come to. Your language skills and community. He is nobody in the new country, he knows that. Here on, do not help him at all, in any which way. Your marriage may not be best, very few have great marriage, so cheer up and don't be sad. There is more to life than marriage- good or bad!