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Awaiting divorce match - Adultry case

Discussion in 'Life Without Spouse' started by nolife, Dec 9, 2015.

  1. SGBV

    SGBV Finest Post Winner

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    Dear OP,

    Looks like this man is desperate for sex or casual relationship rather than a serious relationship like marriage.
    Please pay some thoughts into the adultery matter in relation to his divorce case.

    Since you are also lone and desperate, you failed to sense his true colours it seems. Not your fault. But be careful the next time.

    He must have been looking for a casual sex from you; hence started this sex talk as soon as he interacted with you. Your licence to proceed here must have been provoked him to go further.
    Plus, such men could easily sense desperate and loan women too.
    He is a nice material for casual sex, if you are interested. But I am sure that you are not looking at that now.
    I don't think he is harmful, and could be threatening for your marital peace later on (should you marry someone else).

    It seems, he will not entertain any talks with you hereafter, since you have clearly told him your borders. Leave him.

    Look for some serious relationship, that suits you.
    Once it is confirmed, then entertain your marital rights, including sex.

    Because lone women like you are the latest targets for many men who likes casual sex. Given the Indian context where casual sex is not so common, they might attract you through love talks only.
     
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  2. nolife

    nolife Silver IL'ite

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    @SGBV
    Thank you..Yes, I think he might not want to continue further as I told him that I do not want to have sex with him..
    I would have spent some time with him if he has called me (to a restaurant ) but may be he wants only casual sex and do not want a sensitive person like me.
     
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  3. Metamorphic

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    The story of his divorce is fishy and it is more serious than he having S** talks with you.

    If his wife has a boyfriend and she wants divorce, she will keep the process simple to kick this guy out. Why will complicate the divorce process by filing a adultery case against him and keep demanding money which he is unable to pay and settle ...??

    The story doesn't add up. You are in need of a relationship. Some men out there can very well fake Love, attention to get what they ultimately want ... beware and follow your instincts.
     
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    kcb IL Hall of Fame

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    It's quite obvious that he is not serious about this relation, he is just passing his time. Why he will not save your number or not recognize your voice if he is serious about you. Or he may be chatting with lot of girls and it's difficult for him to remember all of them.

    There are lot of red flags OP. Please be careful.
     
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    Dear OP,

    Please be slow on deciding about him. I feel lot of contradictions in his statements. His ex has put up a case on him, but he says she has a bf. If he is correct he will fight case rather than finding a partner.

    Out of all these tension, how is in mood to have sex chat!! and ready to get into next relationship.

    Just mentioned some red flag.

    As Rihana mentioned, Divorcees are looked with suspicion.
     
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    Just to make you go mad .... make you desperate to call him, then want him and get him somehow. And he gets want he want. Might be trick. Just be very careful.

    I suggest you to avoid him. Anyways you have messaged and called already, so no point in waiting for his response.

    Forget and move one.
     
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    He said that he is contesting the case and he is not going to surrender to her false acquisitions. He told me that he got separated to her ex over 2 years back.
    I feel that he is chatting to many. He got close to me but then no courtesy to call back or tell not interested.

     
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    nolife Silver IL'ite

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    Yeah I have removed him from my list and he can never contact me.
    Looks like he is not interested. His response to my call seemed very harsh!..
    May be this is the reason why his ex left him.

     
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    Op, He is creep and wanted a one night stand. How can a person initiate sex talk without even meeting. He sounds sex starved . When he initiated sex talk without even meeting that shud have given you a warning as to him being fishy. Nobody has sex talk so early on .

    He shud be a warning to you now. Never proceed if a person talks like he did. Never indulge in sex talk with anyone unless the relationship proceeds to considerable level like marriage.Of course as much as possible meet a person and get to know rather than all this.Good Luck.
     
  10. Jazmine83

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    Huge Red flag!!!...not the guy, but you.

    Men can sense desperation and they will try to take advantage of the situation. Not all men but there are sickos out there.

    You gotta be like a flame OP. They should know you will burn them if they try nonsense like this. Being a divorcee (but now married)..the first year I was living alone...men were hitting on me like crazy..there was a guy at work who asked me out within the first week of my separation. No they are not saints..they were just trying to see if they can make use of my weak moment. If you show them you are strong, they will back away.

    Lastly, be choosy..don't talk to any tom, dick or harry. esp..sex chat. People can take screen shots and use it against you. Sex should be the last focus when trying to meet a potential partner. Once you are comfortable and the person has won your trust..then yeah. but before that...be very very careful
     

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