Just a li'll inident at my place gave me this thought ...in fact such incidents are very common at mine and I think many places and may be all of us get this thought later - How do other DIL's behave? Like at times some topic comes up where MIL misunderstood you or DH or both of you as one and pointed out to DH in a little disturbing manner... what happened here today was that a small topic came up..which me and DH simply forgot t o share with MIL..neither was it that important or of much interest to her, thats what we had in mind. Yesterday night, MIL asked DH about it in an indirect way and he told whatever it was..without understanding her pont behind asking until she pointed - why did you have to lie to me and not tell me about this straight away...he cleared that we didn't lie to you...it just wasn't that impt and till now I dont remember whether we shared this with you or not...but AS USUAL...she gave a NOT CONVINCED look and kept mum. DH came and told me and I also felt that it wasnt that impt neither did I took it that way as to tell in advance...it was just about a piece of furniture that we had decided many times in our talks to dispose...My parents needed and we gave it to them but it somehow didn't serve them..They asked us to take it back but DH told that in any case we had to put this away because he planned for a room renovation at that side..and DH tol him that you give it away. MIL asked that if you had to sell it..why did you lie to me that you are gining it to them and sold it thru them. DH clarified...that mom you never had any interest in it whenever we asked for your suggestion..and it didnt fit in their room..there was no fun bringing it back here and then selling it...and in any case we had to do away with it...According to him, she wasn't convinced. He was upset that she doesn't trust us even for such petty matters and thinks we lie to her...she has a basic nature of not trusting us for anything..we know that whereas if for some required matters, whenwe have to mould things or hide from her, me and DH feel guitly about it but have no other choice in those selected cases. Now, DH is the kinds..and being the Son , I think...doesn't feel the need to clarify or convince her properly..I talked to DH and FIL..both said..whatever be it..she will keep having doubts about small and big things..how many times we shall keep convincing her for different matters..This happens many many times. I know she is the kind of lady who registers things in her mind and might come out with it even after months and since this invloved my parents..I was all the more restless..not disturbed though. SHe doesn't clarify ever..and I never want to leave anything assumed between any family member. I feel that causes misunderstandings....although DH tells me no need to keep convincing her..for some impt things..I do keep shut where I think it might worsen the doubts..but today just while working..casually I started and cleared to her and she kept moulding the topic here and there...UNTIL I said that DH felt bad when you said we lied to you. DOn't you trust us ..and why would we lie to you for such petty matters..I could see she was then trying to clear her point..I told her that we understand she would like to know and theres no wrong in it but she should plz keep this out of her mind that we ever lie to her... Later I am feeling that now she might again get to DH that why did he tell me about their talk..although she knos we share all talks ...I told her I didnt mean to disrespect you but I am clarifying so as there be no misunderstandings and she said no no..I trust you..after SIL's marriage you are my daughter..why would I doubt you hhhmmmpphhh... So, I was just thinking when something similar happens at your place with in laws..what do you and your DH's do?