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Are We Turning Into Our Mothers?

Discussion in 'Parents & Siblings' started by hermitcrab, May 17, 2019.

Are we turning into our mother?

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  2. No

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  3. Yes and no...maybe

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  1. hermitcrab

    hermitcrab Gold IL'ite

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    @sbonigala
    sorry for your loss
    You have written about your mother with such love..
     
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  2. hermitcrab

    hermitcrab Gold IL'ite

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    Not all women turn into their mothers
    Let's be honest, there are some abusive mothers in addition to the nice-ever-cooking- in some utopian desi town- moms

    To break the cycle of abuse, daughter may choose not to be like the mother. The society is thankful to such daughters!
     
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    anupama1 Platinum IL'ite

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    Quite true, I have expirienced this...
     
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    SGBV IL Hall of Fame

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    Well, I tried a lot to be like my mother all my life, only to get the realization that I am a different yet unique person of my own kind.
    My mother was a great influence on my whole life. Not that I like her life style or character that much. It was such a strong influence that I subconsciously felt the need to be like her.

    I am glad that I am a different person today, and confident about who I am now. Although my mother never shies away from criticizing me and disagreeing with my way of life, perhaps it is way too different from that of hers. Who cares, I love the way I am, and I have a bunch of immediate and extended people who admire and like me for who i am. Of course, no matter what, my mom continues to love me too :)
     
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  5. hermitcrab

    hermitcrab Gold IL'ite

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    you have hit the jackpot @SGBV
    Because of genetics, we will always be like our mothers. But due to evolution and struggle survive, we will try to forge our own way.
    You have done that. You have more evolved way of living, compared to your mother and still she supports you in your efforts. I have read your posts that she was looking after your children for some time. That is a huge help.
    There will always be some amount of displeasure between the moms and daughters if the daughter chooses evolution over being 'frozen in time'.
     
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    Ruby2019 New IL'ite

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    My mum is becoming like her mum and I’m becoming like her, for sure.
     
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    Sandyr46 Gold IL'ite

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    I would never and will never be my mother. Firstly she hated the fact of having a daughter and all that resentment led her never begetting a son she so wanted. She was left with me. She detested me so much that it was ok for her husband my dad to abuse me. Thankfully hez dead and she lives with her sister and her sons. Good for her. Am glad. Hope she finds her happiness and the sons she wants in her next birth.
     
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    Desiindian Silver IL'ite

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    I too had the same childhood, the only difference being abused by mother, physically, mentally and verbally almost everyday till my marriage day. This made me strong, independent and bold. A gift from negligence parenting.
     
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    Yeahh...thats exactly what it converts u too...and my ex was cherry on the top...am such a deadly combo of independent n badass :banana:
     
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