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Are We Turning Into Our Mothers?

Discussion in 'Parents & Siblings' started by hermitcrab, May 17, 2019.

Are we turning into our mother?

  1. Yes

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  2. No

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  3. Yes and no...maybe

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  1. jskls

    jskls IL Hall of Fame

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    I do want to turn like my mother.

    She would deal everything smilingly.

    She has been more like a friend to me

    Whole colony adored her, wish I can be like her :(
     
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    messedup Gold IL'ite

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    Anyone can tell that we are mother daughter. We both are very very simple. She depend more on my father for every little thing and I too have this in me. The difference is my h don't pamper me like my father do to her by helping her in all the tasks and taking her out with him. My h want me to become independent and I am confused on how to as I always seen dependent mom.
     
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    @hermitcrab
    Cant thank you enough for this thread.
    I never wondered if I was turning into my mom, until I saw this thread.
    Once I started thinking, I realised that I do not remember how my mum yelled at me, how she used to scold me etc.
    All I remember is how welcoming she was, how warm her hug was, how my friends loved her and how tasty her food was.
    Next week is her death anniversary.
    If a mother can pass away leaving just the beautiful memories for her children to remember about her - yes I want to be like her.
    I now consciously practice patience, smiling more, chatting on nonsense stuff with kids because I want them to remember me as a mumma bear not as a yelling demon - mumma bear just how me and my friends now mourn her loss.
     
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    Desiindian Silver IL'ite

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    My mother and her sister are extreme opposite in character, wayofthinking or in patience. So not all women turn to their mother. I doubt whether genes contribute to behaviours of a person.
     
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    :hello:Eyes welled up indeed.
    Thanks and Regards.
    God is In thesis & in antithesis.
     
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    :roflmao::roflmao:
     
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    Very true in most cases. I have come across plenty and daughters do carry both the good and bad sides of their mothers, from my experience.
     
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    I am half way there.
    Sometimes I hear myself and feel like I heard my mom.

    My children say' you are turning into nani '.

    Unfortunately, I seem to be copying most of her annoying habits too.:worried:

    You are so right about the hands @Amulet
    My mom had beautiful hands that she spoilt them working hard and also putting her hand in mud ( gardening ) all the time.
    I seem to be following her hobbies and my hands look like her hands about 20 years back. I better get some good hand lotion and gloves for myself.:eek:
     
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    Very nice thought @jskls
    I too think that my mother has so many great qualities.
    She can talk to maid to president with ease and same compassion, intellect

    I wish I as beautiful and as compassionate as kind

    I do not match her kindness, generosity, steadfastness by her value- value
     
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    Soo soo swet @messedup
    Your parents have such nice relationship
    Hope yours turns out as nice as hers

    One shouldn't worry about who is dependent on whom
    If I had a cherished lover, I will forfeit all my reins
     
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