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Are Sons Harder To Raise?

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by BhumiBabe, Aug 25, 2017.

  1. Naari

    Naari Platinum IL'ite

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    when the Y chromosome responsible for son's birth comes from the father??appreciation for what?
     
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    sindmani Platinum IL'ite

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    God only knows. I used to wonder why my mil or other people I know are so particular about male child.ONCE SHE TOLD ABOUT HER CO SIS (SHE HAS ONE DAUGHTER , ONLY CHILD), THAT SHE HAS NO SON SO SHE IS IN A PITIABLE STAGE.I REALLY WONDER WHY. MY THAT PARTICULAR SIS IN LAW IS DOING PERFECTLY FINE ABOUT TO GET MARRIED. SON OR DAUGHTER WILL BE FINE , NOTHING LIKE DIFFERENCE BECAUSE OF GENDER, DIFFERS ONLY IN BRINGING UP. SWAMI VIVEKANANDA BECAME GREAT (SON), KALPANA CHAWLA(A DAUGHTER) BECAME GREAT.
     
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    satchitananda IL Hall of Fame

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    For 'catching' the right one or brickbats for not doing so!
     
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    Naari Platinum IL'ite

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    haha! I like that..MIL implying "my eggs are super smart, just like me!";)

    :rolleyes::shakehead:
     
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    bruised234 Gold IL'ite

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    No BB, sons are not hard, as someone depends on the child. Yes, there is difference in the way sons behave - their play is so aggressive, it feels like they are fighting when they are just interacting with each other. But then again, my brother was so soft as a kid, he was aggressive but physically I was the one who used to bully him. When I see my sons, I feel I could have treated him a lot better. I always wanted a sister as a kid, but with time, I felt my brother was much better than a sister. What I shared with him, perhaps I would not have shared with a sister if I had one. He was that comfortable as a sibling. I love my sons, a daughter would be wonderful too, but no, I would not replace either of them just for a daughter. They are what they are and they make me happy the way they are.
     
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    sheztheone Platinum IL'ite

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    I think as teenagers, both boys and girls can be difficult to raise:roflmao:
    My parents do not have sons, and while I was growing up they/I did have to face a lot of judgment, to be honest. Comments from relatives about my skin, hair, clothes, friends etc. Though I have to give it to them for not paying much heed to this and raising me the way they wanted to.

    Now I have a son, and since I did not grow up with brothers, I see the the easier part of raising a son vis-a-vis a daughter. First of all, comments from people are much much less that what I faced as a child, his good traits are highlighted more, and no comments on looks etc. (on the other hand, even if he is dressed just a tad, some people gush about how handsome he is lol!)

    I do feel sometimes that having a daughter would give me a friend, a companion to talk to possibly when I get older, but as a PP said, I would never ever trade my son for a daughter.
    Sometimes he makes me wonder how cute and adorable boys can actually be :)
    And in my circle, I see some families where the teenage Indian son spends a lot of time with parents, helps them out etc.
     
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    Daughters are adorable , friends for life , my personal view . yes sons are good too . a daughter will always be close to mom, they are easier to handle as toddlers. Even as teens they will understand things more quickly because girl's emotional maturity is higher.
     
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    Some parents of the previous generation felt that way as they had the added pressure of making sure that their son succeeds academically and land a well paying job or be successful in a business venture, as it was a requisite to get a suitable match.. but they didnt have push the girl so much, as it was ok to get her married off , there were less expectations for the girl to work and earn outside of home..
    Thankfully things are changing now!
     
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    Parents have to worry a lot about daughters. Less so with sons.
    USDA puts out helpful calculation each year on the cost of raising a child. This is mere accounting cost, not the emotional or economic cost of raising one. They dont seem to differentiate between a boy and a girl.
     
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    There may be a lot of truth in that. Sons were considered solid investments, so parents poured more money for their son's development.

    The strange thing is, my MIL is a working woman, a 12 std girls school teacher, who just retired. I would think she knew better than that.
     
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