Hello Ladies, Thank you for taking the time to read this. My DH and I have been married for 7 yrs now. Initially, we went through a lot, inlaw issues, DH temper issues, negative/narrow minded thinking, we are both attached to our parents so mostly fights very centered around them, you dint call, dint wish,etc. After about 2 years into marriage, things have become more peaceful, we know where to stop and know each others' 'problem' areas. However, recently we had a fight. While talking about last rites for dead people etc my DH stresses 2-3 times and said "My son will perform my last rites (before anyone's)". I asked why was he stressing so much, he just dint say and repeated that line. Then it occurred to me that he was indirectly mentioning that our son can't perform last rites to my parents. To which I said I didn't have such thoughts, my parents are perfectly healthy and why are you even thinking about their last rites. I asked him in the beginning of the discussion when parents have only daughters (like in my parents case) is grandson allowed to perform last rites. So he thought I was referring to my parents and my son. While I was enquiring about his mom and her father. But that's ok, him thinking I am enquiring for my parents but even if I was, I didn't like it that he immediately said our son should perform for him. I said a person can perform last rites any number of times, to which he said, I did not know that but still I want my son to perform for me first before anyone else. I was hurt. How can he be so rude and non-empathetic, isn't it mean that he doesn't want our kid to perform last rites for my parents, if need be? Would he say the same thing for his parents? I was shattered I said, anyway I am not enquiring about my parents, I wish they have a healthy long life, God forbid, if something happens, I want to perform the rite or my son if he can. Pour in your thoughts about the above, do you think I am over reacting or is he being plain mean and selfish? He says such inappropriate things once in a while which hurt me and also make me re think if I even need to have another baby with him. He is otherwise a great dad and husband but not so great son in law. He is courteous to my parents but he snaps when something bothers him from what they say. He is basically reserved, talks to his family and no friends. Please share your thoughts.