An Opinion On Everything

Nice share.

exactly...

 

I usually do not mind my husband, my mom, my dad, or my children, giving their opinion about my choices because I know they have my best interests at heart.
When it comes to buying clothes I value their opinions because they know what complements me what makes me look droopy, pale, or just horrible.

Regarding others' opinions, yes, it can be quite annoying, but in retrospect it is our choice whether to pay heed or not.
Sometimes we get viewpoints that we never would have thought about. They may turn out to be good after all.

Like the saleswoman said, it is still our decision to make.

 

Our near and dear ones always air their opinion, we still have the choice of accepting or rejecting it. The issue comes when their views are forced on others. In our enthusiasm, on the spur of the moment, some of us say things which we may not mean at all. It is best to be a little more cautious and sensitive.

 

I agree Geeta.
I wrote from the wife's stance.
You have written from the husband's stance.

This is not a one sided solution. Everyone has a responsibility.

 

Dear kkrish,

Basically, I made a general statement. I know many (men n women) who are too particular about implementing their will, wish and POV. Their spouses n children suffer the most and occassionally it spills over to others in their company. This kind of temperament is bad for relationships and it should be checked.

 

This may be an offshoot of innate, deeply embedded traits nurtured by biological evolution. Most creatures spend a substantial portion of their lives having to quickly distinguish between friend/foe, food/poison, eat/be eaten, fight/flight. Even as we are blessed with sapience, our animal selves still feel their existence depend on a constant scanning of the environment followed by a rapid judgment. In benign situations (like shopping) this scanning and judging spills over into verbal commentary, often with words better left unsaid. When meditation teachers urge a non-judgemental awareness, this is exactly what they mean - watch how quickly your monkey-mind rushes to classify everything into like/dislike, love/hate even before the sensory perception is complete. I have found it instructive to cultivate awareness of this spontaneous impulse.

 

This is so true . Have seen many cases and I myself being a victim sometimes. Wish whoever it is shouldn’t force their opinions on others in such a way that it hurts their sentiments. Esp in clothing.

Each one has their own choice and each one is comfortable wearing particular types . But I don’t really get why some husbands force their wives to wear according to their wishes.

I am not telling that wife shouldn’t respect husband opinions but what I don’t like is forcing wife to dress up in certain way when wife doesn’t like or not allowing wife to dress up according to her wishes always!

She may be dependable on him but is she not an Adult ? When she knows how to dress up decently why not let her wear what she wants instead. Shouldn’t the husband respect wife’s choice too ??

The worst was when my FIL told me not to wear a particular top because it was asymmetrical and if you wear such tops it’s bad itseems!!! One side of my mind I was laughing for his stupidity and other side got really angry but dint speak a word . Why should inlaws control what to wear and wat not to wear . Being youngsters we women like wearing modern and trendy clothes ( Although Not mini skirts or revealing clothes )

Why should they stop us wearing such things after marriage ?? When will this Indian men mindset change ??