An attempt to demistify marriage.....

Good Analysis. Mr. Awesome friend can be Mr. Right in many cases. This can be easier than converting Mr. Right to Mr. Friend!

 

[JUSTIFY]After Mr. Awesome becomes Mr.Right, a malfunction occurs in his system and he becomes Mr.Lost. On a serious note, though there could be some examples of a good friend turned good husband, I don't see how they correlate through logic. Being Mr.Right involves also being Mr.Compromise, Mr.Patience, Mr.Sacrifice, Mr.Love, Mr.Responsible and Mr.Awesome Friend. Besides, Mr. Awesome friend can be an awesome friend to many people but he can only be Mr. Right for one person (sadly LOL). Clearly, Mr. Right needs to fulfill a lot many more criteria than just being Mr. Awesome Friend. [/JUSTIFY]

 

Good friendship alone is not going to make Mr. Awesome Friend into Mr. Right. Marriage need more than friendship; along with friendship it needs physical attraction, adjusting nature, similar moral codes (lots of things that we don't mind our friends do but becomes an issue if it was done by the spouse), compatible long term goals & aspirations and so on.

Starting point can be anything or can be even nothing but important thing is the direction in which the relationship develops.

 

If he was the Awesome friend, and the right guy for you, you still can have the Awesome friend, only you need to work on the relationship.even friendship needs the right type of commitment to keep it live..even if you have a friend whom you can catch up with after a few years from where you left, it means you have already nourished that relationship with what it needs to withstand the wears of time..

Married to my close friend, and after 18 years of marriage, i still have my close friend. A awesome friend can be the best Mr.right or Mr.right can become your awesome friend, once you give time,comitment, and the right communication to work on that.. we were two parallels who walked into marriage with our open eyes that we need to work on a common ground.. US.

 

Bang on Shanvy !!!! As usual

Time, commitment, communication, open-mindedness, attraction, agree to disagree on minor issues, commitment again, more communication and some more communication and lots and lots of patience -

Mr. Right becomes Mr. Awesome friend or Mr. Awesome friend becomes Mr. Right, either way, Ms. Right is happy

 

Justlife-One of my best male friends has most of the qualities that I look for in a man. He's compassionate, he's kind, he's caring, he's supportive, and he's respectful...and he would marry me in a heartbeat he says.

But...he's 41, which is a whopping 13 years older than me. I joke with him saying "If you were my age, I probably would have married you by now." I just can't get over the fact that he's so much older than me.

 

Justlife, I think a good friendship gets spoiled by a marriage.A friendly relationship is entirely different from a marital relationship. Marriage being a deeper commitment with responsibilities it uncovers his true personality. But there are no guarantees on someone being right. Marriage is a big risk. Also no man, I think, can be Mr.Right for all one's life. There may arise a 'right' time to quit a marriage and that may be the right thing to do with Mr.Right.

Let him Remain Mr.Awesome friend and also Mr.right without any serious commitment. If he is both It will be better than a marriage. So why spoil it with a marriage?

Nandita