An Alternative View - Open Marriage

Dear op may be you can add a small description of open marriage in the post!

 

This is wrong on so many levels..Encourages illicit behavior and promotes the spread of sexually transmitted diseases.

 

I like big fat weddings. However, it should not be an open house. Guests should be invited people.

 

NO, but different issues like paternity problem, DNA tests, child custody etc..etc.. would be there

 

Open marriage ?? Why marry at all ? Let us all be like wild animals in the jungle. Find the next person that gives us that tingling feeling and go all out . When one is bored there are plenty of other animals out there. Maybe on the way we might have some cubs and pups. We might also end up being pioneers in acquiring, spreading existing or novel STD’s .

 

The fact is most of the marriages fail because of infidelity issues (from the husband or wife). The concept of open marriage seems to address this particular aspect. So, in a open marriage, there is no necessity to cheat. And it looks like being open strengthen's the bond between the couples.

 

To be honest, I don't think many people have the emotional maturity to handle an open marriage - not just in India, but in the world. Even with a traditional monogamous model of marriage, people tend to be insecure, highly emotional, and prone to hurting each other. When there are other people in the mix, wouldn't that make it worse?

The only situation where I think an open marriage would work, is when the marriage is kept to appease the family expectations - for the stability of the children, parents, society, etc. Even in this case, the spouses both have to be on the same page and have some sort of agreement, so that feelings don't get hurt.
Oh, and the health angle- there's a lot to be said about contraceptives and sexual health care. If people were educated about safe sex, I don't see this being a problem.

 

I felt same as you after reading what open marriage is. First of all, the word MARRIAGE isn't suitable for that relationship and don't need marriage for that kind of relation.