Am I Misunderstood Just Because I Am Single In My 30s?

Op, you are making this all about you. No one has so much time or interest to care about any other persons life . If you have this attitude that people treat you differently because you are divorced you are only feeding your suspicious mind. The way people treat you mirrors what you think about yourself. I am sure no one even remembers that Facebook comment other than you. And why would anyone come to the conclusion that you are gay based on one comment and even if they do, why do you care?

 

I relate to your situation but my point of view with regards to your friend's comment is that it was a silly comment meant to be funny and harmless. I could not see anything taunting or mocking. I think she meant that she was not involved in any hanky-panky to result in a pregnancy...and hence the crying smilies (actually it means laughing till one has tears in one's eyes). If you feel troubled or really want to know what she meant just ask her directly in person in a casual , cheerful way. If you ask her online she may type yet another crypic hard to understand comment.

About your colleagues again it is a harmless remark. Nothing to be read into.

I think it may be your own view of being a divorcee that may be coloring your perception of how others talk or behave with you.

Nothing sexier than a newly single woman who has decided to get rid of the shackles of a bad marriage. It shows that she is making a statement of who she is, what she will & wont put up with. Thats how i see a divorcee. Not some miserable woman meant to be pitied or mocked. Infact in this day and age it will not be uncommon to see women lacking the courage to leave their own miserable unions, being secretly envious of a newly minted divorcee.

So, chill. Dont overthink unless you are explicitly told something offensive. When in doubt dont hesitate to ask what she/he meant. People making sidey remarks may be embarassed enough to back off. People making innocent remarks will clarify their point.

 

Oh btw was your friend single or married ? And were these her exact words ?

"I'm not involved in any matter" ?

 

Okay my assumption: either of you or both of you are Telugu speaking. 'Don't involve me, I am innocent ' is a popular comedy dialogue from a decade old movie. In all probability, she just meant in lighter vein that she doesn't know why the app is just predicting pregnancy to all who click on it. That's why the smilies follow.

As for your colleagues, I guess you are already thinking too much about the fb post and so misunderstood their behavior/questions.

All this is JMO. But even if it's a wrong guess, would still advice you to chill. Don't think too much about unnecessary stuff.

Above is the comedy scene for you to enjoy

 

If something bothers you just reply back to them and ask what do they mean. But do not take social media comments and behavior seriously. People behave weirdly in social media.

 

It is likely that because you pointed out that you too got the same result as her, she is trying to say that she did not rig the link/she is not involved in a prank on you / had no part to play in the outcome of the link. The laughing smilies were because she too found it funny and it looked like a prank.

Not sure if you/your friend speak tamil where sometimes "matter" is slang for some personal hanky panky stuff. But it may also be loosely used to mean some shenanigans or secret/shady activities which is what she is really refering to.

Lastly let me tell you - these days topics like homosexuality are tabboo for being made fun of. Sensible & educated people and women esp are usually careful to be politically correct in public & online. So i do think it wld be far fetched for your friend to have made gay jokes or reference publicly.

Relax

 

I think you got way too much time on your hand to read too much into something somebody may have worded poorly. You could have thanked her and said thanks for wishing me to be remarried in 2017!

Chill!