Am asking him too many questions?

Then he shouldn't have married.

Why getting married and expecting wife to give "space" for him even to accomodate few other girls in that??

If he is having a cheating history, then I validate your constant urge to keep an eye on him.

Give the issue the seriousness it deserves. Put a stop to the question and answer session, where you question and he keeps twisting things that you end up feeling guilty and wrong. This is a kind of abuse from him IMO.

You have every right to find out what he is upto. You cannot live with this constant insecurity and fear.

Given the cheating history he has, onus is on him to assure you of his changed behaviour and his fidelity. Stop thinking that you have to change. BOTH have to change. Now, its his turn. You better convey this to him firmly.

 

Next time he talks about wanting space...tell him'cheaters don't deserve that'.
As for asking.....if he ever decides to cheat again...he is unlikely to tell you just because you are asking. If you don't trust him....you will have to find others ways of finding peace.

 

Dear OP,
As much as it pains me to say this, if your spouse is cheating you will find out. No need of checking or asking questions. These questions and queries also would not stop someone who really wants to cheat. So, give him space and do your thing.
More importantly try to figure out why the cheating happened is it lack of respect for your relationship or just a habit of your husband.

 

I can understand tht u keep questioning him do to trust issues..... however do u really think he is going to tell you yeah i am chatting with ex , yeah i am cheating again ... no right... you ask him questions, and he gives you answers You want to hear... thats it....

In the coming new Year... let your resoultion be to find happiness beyond your husband... if he cheats again, have the guts to.. look at him and say he doesnot deserve you...you are worth much more... the more you question him the more you are pushing him away from you.... if he needs space give him so much space thth he should begin to feel you no longer depend on him to be happy..... find your own stuff to do.... dont run around doing all the stuff for him... dont be available too much for him...

 

'Cheating History' ? did he have many affairs in the past ? to what extent ? Only online chat stuff with women on Internet or with real women ? anyway, if his past affairs are true, then there is no surprise that you are asking too many questions.

 

Your signature words are good, confusedwoman !

 

You become more secretive than him !! Then he will want to know abt you and will share in return everything to know what you are upto !!
Besides, He shud be working extra hard to gain ur trust and not get offended on you asking question !!