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All Btdt Moms.. Help

Discussion in 'Infants' started by Halosandwings, Nov 2, 2017.

  1. Halosandwings

    Halosandwings Bronze IL'ite

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    Hi Everyone,

    I have a 7 month old at home. He has mastered crawling recently :banana:. In the past, I was able to leave him on his play mat and do small tasks in the kitchen. I was checking on him every couple of seconds. Now that he is more mobile I am not able to do it. There are times I had to hold him in one hand and stir something on the stove with the other hand. Being a FTM, I am not completely comfortable doing that. I am worried that the baby might wriggle and get a burn or something. Sometimes I hold him in my hands while I sit on the john to pee. :fearscream::rolleye:...

    I would really appreciate any tips on how to schedule my day better. If someone can share their schedule with me I would try my best to follow. My baby still nurses at night. His naps are usually 45 mins long for 2 or 3 times. I have not put him on a schedule yet. I am trying to avoid putting him on a schedule before 1. I nurse him when ever he is hungry. We do have a bed time routine. I put him to sleep between 8 and 8:30.

    I have asked one of my cousins and she told me that she used to wake up at 4 and complete all the work by 7 AM:sconf:.. I have not been a morning person all my life. But I will do it if I have to.

    How can I create a safe space for my kid at home? How useful are play yards and jumperoos? Lastly, would I be considered lazy if I ask my nanny to come for a couple of hours during my time off?

    Thanks,

    Halosandwings
     
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  2. ashneys

    ashneys Platinum IL'ite

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    I used to put my child always inside his play pen when I have to do some task. Right since when he started twisting n turning. Fill it with soft toys, they will keep themselves entertained. It's safe. Get a wheel fixed if you wana move it around.

    If you want to keep your sanity as a new mom especially, don't try to do everything or to be perfect at everything. Get help, avoid or minimise some work, let something be messy, it's ok. It may seem like v have to be a super woman at all times, but v also require n deserve a break. Or it will start affecting in the longer run.

    So there's no right or the wrong way, it's just 'your' way. What works for one may not work for you, so do whatever works for you. Don't decide anything based on others judgements, they don't live your life, you do.
     
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    GoneGirl Gold IL'ite

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    If you can afford it and have a good nanny, definitely get the nanny for a couple of hours.. so much easier to cook or get some chores done, and safer for your kid.. that is being smart, not lazy.. so you will have more quality time to spend with your kid.. I often do that on my days off, so I can do my grocery shopping for the week and do some cooking, without having to worry about my Kid’s safety..
     
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  4. Rakhii

    Rakhii Moderator IL Hall of Fame

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    At that age, I used to put my baby in a high chair in the kitchen. On the snack tray, I used to give some toys for the baby to play.
    One pot meals are the way to go. When hubby comes home, just prep for the next day.
     
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    aspha Gold IL'ite

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    I started waking up at 5 in the morning completing all the cooking and having a shower. It helped.

    You mentioned you have not started schedule yet, I would highly highly recommend that start putting him in a schedule. Earlier the better. They thrive on schedule. From my experience with both kids.

    You can also invest in good play-pen. if your kitchen is big enough you can lay a non-skid foam mat and place some onions potatoes, apples, oranges, etc and let him play with them
     
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    BhumiBabe Platinum IL'ite

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    When my son first learned to crawl, I used a pack and play (or travel crib) to keep him confined. He was not happy about it, but I could drag it around the house, wherever I was working. I kept my schedule very simple during this time. My son and I woke up together, so I never prepared anything early in the morning (there is no chance that this is even possible). I made a simple breakfast - cereal, toast, etc. I would bathe my son first, and get him ready, place him in the pack and play, drag it into the bathroom and then take my shower. When he naps, I prepare some light cooking or cutting up veggies, and watch tv. I eat my peaceful lunch, and do useless things until he wakes up. If I haven't completed what I need to, I put my son in his high chair and gave him things to snack on, until I finished the work. I saved real cooking to when my husband got back from work, because I was going to be in the kitchen anyway - making tea and snacks. I let the boys bond, and I will make enough food for the night and the next day's lunch.

    I noticed that my son doesn't really enjoy playing with the toys I give him, and ends up around my legs. So usually, I let him play with some pots and pans to bang with. That usually keeps him occupied, and I can finish the cooking in the meantime.

    There is nothing wrong with hiring help. I have seen many women hire baby sitters (or ask a friend) when they need to complete errands or just need to unwind. If you have the ability, try to hire a house cleaner. They aren't too expensive if schedule them for bimonthly or monthly service. This would free you up to actually spend quality time with your kid. I was one of those people who needed to keep my house in good condition (but had no budget for a maid), so, I involved my son in almost all the chores. I loaded the washing machine, with my son sitting on the dryer, I folded the clothes with him (he would roll in the laundry and unfold everything), we would sweep and vacuum together (I put him in the carrier or the high chair), etc. My mom said that she put me in the stroller, while she did housework, and rocked me to sleep in it, since it reclined. Try to see what works for you. I am glad I involved my son early, because as a toddler, he helps me load the washing machine and dryer, doesn't kick over the folded clothes anymore, sets the table (when I tell him to), cleans his water spills (he spills water for fun, but at least he knows he needs to clean it), sweeps the floor, throw trash in the trash, and dirty dishes in the sink.

    If you get really overwhelmed, I advise you to find a way to escape the house. You would always have a lot of work to do, if you stay at home. Try to visit neighbors or drive to the library or mall. Getting out of the house actually helps keep the house clean, because you and baby aren't there to mess it up :beer-toast1:
     
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  7. Rihana

    Rihana IL Hall of Fame

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    I don't know how to break this to you gently. There is no such thing as time off. There is a mirage yes, where we keep thinking we'll get some time off or me time once child is walking, potty trained, sleeping through the night, in preschool, in primary school, teenager ... reality is that the mommy mind is never off. Elsewhere we called it the 'spreadsheet' syndrome -- where you are the official spreadsheet creator and nagger-in-chief of the family. OK.. done breaking it not gently. : )

    No, you would not be lazy, rather you would be wise to get help during your time off if you need it. But, think a bit more -- the nanny will come to help with the active little crawler or the chores? If the former, then, maybe not a good idea. Ideally, most of your off time should be spent with child. Would be nice if you can outsource some chores rather than increase time child is with nanny.

    By time off you mean when you are back home from work?
     
  8. Halosandwings

    Halosandwings Bronze IL'ite

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    Hi everyone!

    Thank you so much for taking time and read and give helpful suggestions. My boy is very clingy to me and does not sit quietly. He does not play with toys and always on the go and ready to explore kinda dude.. I had couple of health issues and some work issues.. So ultimately we decided to hire the nanny in my off time. She comes for 3 hours and it gives me a good time to cook and take bath rather than waiting for my kid to fall asleep and rush to get things done. My nanny is super nice that if the baby clings to me, she would cut the veggies. She is a true blessing for me. I am very happy with my current schedule and I am able to take the baby out almost every day of the week. Once a week I am able to leave the baby with nanny and take care of errands like servicing car etc. I am a happy momma now :)
     
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