Hi all, Need some advice on MIL problems. I was married for around 20 years and my MIL always hurts me indirectly. Example: she brings same scenario that happened with me as some neighbors scenario and then reply as if she was talking about their case. I know she is indirectly referring to me but I cannot really confront as she will say she is actually talking about neighbors. She always praises about my co sis in front of me ( probably to make me feel bad) and does the same with her. near her she praises my way of doing things. We both talk to each other and by now we know she does this intentionally. But for outsiders she praises that she got best dil’s in The world. 5 years back my FIL passed and she started staying with us. I am not really liking this indirect way of hurting and finally took courage and confronted that I know that she is wantedly trying to bring our scenarios as neighbors and hurting and I a not liking it and going forward I will tolerate any more and my husband always supports me as he himself was there when she did this crazy talking in the past. But the problem is , she became even more worse as her son is supporting me . She stays bad mood most of the day. On occasion like where I get promotion- she does not want to come for dinner ( due to which we have to cancel hers) and petty things like this continue daily. I don’t like giving it back all the time and loose my peace but at the same time want her to stop this behavior and be nice. I am willing to do all work and I do already and don’t need her help in home chores other than keeping my mind peaceful but she always finds a way to hurt me. How do I solve this? Few examples: 1) I am little overweight than my hus. She always pauses tv when a couple ( wife chubbier than hus) and asks me feedback on how the couple is looking? 2) she talk bad about my parents - my parents brought jewelry when my baby is born but of baby size. Then she was talking to my daughter who is 6 month old and saying what will u do with baby size jewelry as they willl soon not fit. Will you play as toys? 3) when she comes to our house she praises my co sis a lot and her way of doing things etc and she does reverse there., I feel it is sick.. instead she can praise what she likes in each of us in their respective homes. Don’t understand why she does that? 4) I am a working person but still make Indian breakfast before leaving to work, prepare lunch, drop and pick both kids and do all house hold chores. But still when my husband tried to help me after returning from work.. she does not like it and makes statements like my kids never worked before marriage and now they are doing all this. Thank god my husband does not stop helping me or supporting me but I am afraid with this constant nagging things will change. 5) I cannot list all things she said to me as it will be lengthy post but she hurted like above on several occasions. Last month I confronted and quoted everything she said since marriage and said I will not tolerate anymore. I can do all the work and respect her as MIL provided she does not make this indirect attack. She told my husband about my quarrel and he told her she needs to stop her indirect way of telling things. Now she seems angry on both of us..in Co sis house BIL gets carried away with MIL and scolds co sis. Co sis shares with me., here it is not happening the same way. So she is acting weird. 6) she insists not to go for any parties , dinner ( marriage day, promotion) on special occasions after quarrel due to which we are cancelling ours. Mine and my co sis wedding days are day apart. She did not wish us . When my co sis family called to wish us , she said she forgot. I am sure she is doing all this intentionally. She needs things her way regardless and feeling it as constant pain as she is in our home now. Even after the quarrel she keeps telling co sis called her and said sorry as she is not able to call ( they call everyday .. just for missing one day costs called and said very sorry). I got doubt and asked cosis .. she said she never said that..it’s my MIL indirect way to tell me other DIL is so polite ( not sure).. My MIL does not know that me and co sis are close and share. I want to her my MIL that we share and know her drama but my co sis insists as BIL will scold her. Keeping cosis issues aside, how do I solve my MIL issue? When I confronted she cried making me look bad and she says I am a loose talker and make hurtful statements without knowing but honestly she does that intentionally to keep DIL’s under control. Pls advice..