I have been accused of purposely withholding sex from my husband (by my husband, of course), but I can't seem to understand this. I'm not purposely doing that, I'm just not in the mood, 29 out of the 30 days in a month. And when I am physically in the mood, being happy helps me reciprocate, while being insulted at, clearly doesn't work. The thing is, sex is painful to me, when I am not in the mood, which I assume is NOT normal. I would like to know, if pleasing your husband needs means overlooking your own? Does this happen to anyone else?