Hi all I dont think you need a brief about my life here.... Just thought of starting a new thread, as I dont wanna continue anything of my past from now onwards. I have gotten back my money (though almost 50% of my earnings have been wasted/invested for my IL's luxaries - Ok, never mind) and the land deeds are with me now (though its still in our joint names). Had a very blunt talk with ILs about all the past happenings and their inteferences. Involved my FOO in this regard to threaten ILs, as they know my family is far better off and influencial one than theirs. So, I am sure they will think twise before poking their nose hereafter. (they are new to this town). Now I want to start a new life... if not for me, atleast for the future of my LO. Last night H called me and said he is coming on Monday for a visit... Unlike other days, he was so nice this time and wanted to see us. I am sure he will come up with 10000000000000000s of SORRY and begging for his nasty behaviour. On the other hand, FIL visited yesterday and he pretented to be so nice. Just day before yesterday me and my bro gave him a nice lesson for what he was doing all these times. But this man seems shameless I am looking for a job, house and a servant... and hope I will find everything soon. I have something in my mind, that i want to discuss with DH when he is around.. and I want to get your opinion on this. Coz I know i am confused. Postpartum is normally a depressed phase for any woman, and my case is an extreme as I am facing so much family issues after the birth of my LO. So, I just dont want make any imptn decisions on my own at this stage, hence I ask your opinions before I make such an imptn life decision of mine. I am going to tell DH that I am done with this reationship. All these while I trusted him so blindly as I didnt want to give a second thought of doubting him in anything. My love for him was so true. I always been a loyal wife to him no matter what. I listened to him, and did what he wanted. coz i loved him. My family members, friends and you online forum members repeatedly advised me to be cautious on this man. His behaviour has created doubts in everyone around me, but my poor mind didnt want to believe them,rather I trusted this man. Recently I found out that he has taken INR 300,000 from our J acc (thats a diff story), and he said he has taken this money for my maternal expenses, but at last my bro has spent everything from his own pocket and DH didnt re deposit anything. On the same period my FIL has renovated his home and that estimated cost should be the same. He never shared his salary details with me dispite me asking so many times. He never spent any cent on us either. When I asked him to give some money for me and LO during last April, he gave me INR 50,000, but now i discovered that he has taken that amount also from our J acc. And he has no other savings... which means, he was giving his entire pay cheque to his dad, and touching our J acc for his dad's additional request by leaving his wife and kid to beg from others. Recently my FIL was telling that he wanted to buy an AC and a car soon. Which means, he has already planned to empty our J acc for this purpose and that's why he was damn against my plan for building a home now (using that money) and my DH too had the same opinion in this. After knowing all this, my heart doesnt want to excuse my DH now... Even if i excused, he wil repeat the same in no time. I am not angry on him for draining my money, but using my love and trust to cheat on me. He could have killed me and taken my insurance than hurting my love like this. I am so hurt beyond words So, I am going to tell him that he can live with his parents, spend on them as long as he wants. I am not going to bother him. But he shouldnt visit or contact me from now onwards... I know i can manage my life on my own (till now he spent nothing on us). And none of his relatives should come over here to see the LO. He can take even 10 or 1000 years for this, but after fullfilling all the neeeds of his parents/siblings and after knowing that there wont be any inteferences from them only he can come to live with us. Coz i dont want to make him as a cheater of love anymore, and if i continue to live with him, i will continue to trust and love him blindly.. so living apart is the only way to save my LO from all the future dissaster.