@Vedhavalli, Please don't be so fragile that others can hurt you this easily. In your shoes, I would be glad she moved on, if she is not trying to make friends with me for my personality. Give her the benefit of doubt like others have suggested - perhaps she was trying to find out how to get a job. I have been a stay at home mom intermittently and it always has been by choice. I quit working to take care of the kids. While at home, I had people tell me things like "you should start an at home day care to help working moms like us", "Hey you stay at home no, can you pick up my kid and keep him with you till I get back from work?" If the request is from a good friend, I would absolutely do but it was usually acquaintances and I would always tell them that I was busy and couldn't help. I also gave them a benefit of doubt and assumed their request was genuine and meant nothing else, even if it meant something. That helped me immensely. I also realized, if I don't take offense it helped get better to say no with more confidence - yes, you shouldn't let this affect your self esteem. You shouldn't be finding reasons or justifying your position to anyone. If you are asked questions like this, be upbeat about what you do and you can talk books you read, the me time you try to get out of the day, the new skills you are learning or the new dish you cooked - whatever you think made you happy for the day. If they say you have a lot of time for your child, please say "Yes and I absolutely love it!" I somehow felt that you were genuinely hurt, so chose to respond. I am sure you have many good friends and come across quite a few wonderful women. Give them the preference, even in your thoughts.