A complicated situation with my mom

Ladies, I just want you to read through and tell me if I am being taken for granted by my sister and mom. No matter how many times I tell myself its not the case, I have this nagging feeling that the below situation should not have happened.

When my sister was getting married she was given 5 lacks as dowry and a small home (8 years it was worth 10 lacks). They (my sister and BIL) sold the house to pay off some debt my BIL incurred after wards.

Coming to my case, I married a man who is against dowry. So, other than the wedding expenses, me and my parents didn't incur any expenditure.

Now, the situation is, my parents own 3 other apartments in Hyderabad. One is in my sisters son's name (my nephew). The other two are in my parents name but the rent for one of the apartments goes to my sister's account. So, in total she gets rent from 2 paces; one from her son's (who is 6 years old) apartment and one from the apartment in my parents name.

This leaves the third apartment; the rent is going to my parents account.

Now, apparently my parents are writing a "Will" about the beneficiaries. My mom was telling me that the 3rd apartment would be written in my name but for now my sister will be staying there! The other (2nd one) apartment would be in my sisters name.

I am not worried about my sister staying there by knowing my BIL, he is not going to vacate the place if we need it in future!

As of now, my parents live in a their government quarter.

Now, I understand that its not my money and that I shouldnt bother whom they write it to, but as of now, my sister got 3 apartments and I got 1. And that too, she wants to stay in the apartment which is being given in my name because the other ones are a bit far from her DH's work place.

I was quite annoyed but didn't say anything either to my mom or my sister.

According to you, is this fair treatment?

I woud also like to add that both my DH and I work hard (12-14 hrs a day). We saved what ever we could for many months before we could afford a home, cottage and cars for both of us. You people know how difficult it is to earn money right.

My sister never worked in her life. She says she cant do it because of her son...I mean he is 6 years old, he is not an infant right. He doesnt need full time attention.

My parents keep telling me that I am well-off thats why they dont give anything to me. But I have struggled very much before I came to this stage. Is this a fair treatment?

Dont get me wrong I love my mom and sis to pieces....just felt bad that they are letting my sister take away the 1 home I have also.

 

Thanks priya. Its always been like this Priya. My sis gets all the sympathy and I get all the hard-work. Even before graduating its the same thing...I studied well, got a scholarship in a good school and moved abroad. My sis on the other hand was not good in studies simply because she never cared. Obviously she didnt get into good graduate school and my parnets think she is "unlucky". I mean...what happened to all the hours of hard work i put in to get good percentile?

Same thing with job too you know...I really work hard and my parents think i am getting it easy.

I dont want to legally fight for my rights Priya. That would be too awkward.

 

@lotusgirl, I hear ya! Both my parents are well educated (my mom is actually a PhD holder), yet they see thing superficially. I mean, my mom keeps saying, "you have a home and you have a cottage. My sis doesnt. So we will give it to her"! Come on...I work my ass off to make a good living!

Archana, I like your idea. I will tell my mom and see if she can write me the other apartment and let my sister take the current one.
Being far is so difficult Archana. Needless to say, things get done according to what siblings want in India, doesnt happen equally. very sad...
My mom and dad are coming to visit us in July this year. I will have a heart to heart talk...until then, hope to God, that she doesn't write all the apartments in my sis's name.

@pinkpearl, What hurts me the most is the fact that my sis is letting this happen to me. I really thought she was my best ...best of everything.

@Srama, I will talk to mom and suggest that I would like the smaller house which is in my sisters name.
Hopefully she will agree. If not, all the houses are gone and I will be left with nothing.
Ideally it shouldnt bother me because its not my hard earned money. Still...