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விஜிமா, அற்புதமான thread. என்னை பொறுத்த வரை மாமனார் மாமியார் கூட வாழ்றது தான் நல்லது.
பெரியவங்க கூட இருந்தால் அது நம்மல்க்கு தீங்கு வருத்தாது. அவங்கள நல்ல அட்ஜஸ்ட் பண்ணி போகிறதுக்கு ஒரு நல்ல மனசும் வேண்டும்.

 

நல்ல பதிவு ஆன்டி. விட்டு கொடுத்து போகும் குணம் இருந்தால் தான் கூட்டு குடும்பம் இனிமையா நடக்கும். ஆனா அவங்கவங்க வீட்டுல எப்படி இருக்கோ அடுத்த வீட்டுல தான் எல்லாம் பிரமாதம்னு பாதி நேரத்துக்கு மேல் பலர் நினைக்கிறோம். எனன செய்ய ஆன்டி, மனம் ஒரு குரங்குன்னு சும்மாவா சொல்லியிருக்காங்க?

 

Thaniya irukkara sugam ippo thaan naan experience pannaren aunty! Becos MIL passed away in 2008 and FIL in 1994. From the time of my marriage in 1987, we were all in a joint family only. I liked staying together. I definitely learnt a lot from them. I used to have great interactions with FIL. Even now, very often I feel he should not have left us all this early. Because only at the time he passed away, we saw the coming of so many TV channels and now so many music programms are telecast. Whenever I watch classical shows, I used to feel sorry that FIL is not here with us to enjoy. He used to love Carnatic music and would want me to accompany him to kutcheris. When some song is sung, he would ask my MIL to identify the raga and invariably she would guess it wrong. Immediately he would start teasing her. Likewise, when there is some news for them to tell me, first FIL will share it with me. Not happy with this, MIL would again come and tell the same thing to me. So he will say, dhaa, fiddle vandhaachu. In music, whatever the vocalist sings, the same thing will be repeated on the Veena by the accompanying artist. With this in mind, he used to make fun. But it always used to be healthy interactions and we three will have fun. This way, when immediately after marriage my husband left for Pune for almost a year, till his transfer, I did not feel lonely. We three used to go out and get along very well.

Just before seeing this thread too, I was talking to Sudha about my inlaws only. What a coincidence I saw this thread immediately.

 

Vijima I come from a joint family and my parents and brothers were also living in a joint family. But since the flat was inadequate for three families and with children growing up my younger brother has shifted to his flat. But still the spirit of jointness is there..For every festival invariably my brothers meet at one of their houses alongwith my parents and celebrate the festival together. Many neighbours envy our family and say how is it possible for my mother to get alongwith her two DILs so well.

 

hello viji ma , nalla karuthupost panirukinga,

yennai poruthavarai mamiyar mamanar kuda irukumbo yepdiyum yethavthu china mana kasapu illama irukathu adjust panni vazhalam anal ethanai nal adjust pana mudiyum athuvey oru nal vedichuduchu na aparam orutharoda mukam kuda paka mudiyathey, athanal , thirumanam ana pin thaniye irupathu nalathu oruvar methu matroruvaru entha keta abiprayamum nigazha vaipukal kuraivagum allava ,nalla natkala ona sernthu sandoshama irukalm ilaya ,
ithu yen karuthu