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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by pinky18, Jun 1, 2015.

  1. pinky18

    pinky18 Senior IL'ite

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    She is going preschool from last 15 days..
     
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    mangaii Finest Post Winner

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    What does he do when she is at school ?
     
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    Sleep, eat ,and watch TV.: she goes for 5 hours everyday mon to friday.
     
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    lavani Platinum IL'ite

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    thank you sharing in detail .

    no this is not acceptable at all. Your Husband , is a lazy no good person. I was thinking ,he is taking care of kid alone.

    videos games, no house help. and no job, not acceptable at all

    in US terms , he looks like you are his sugar mom . sorry for this pun.

    I really sympathize with your situation, if you continue this , it will lead to depression. Please plan and take corrective measures.


    Even my H is better, i had to leave to india for 3 weeks. he took care of both the kids , lunch was packed every day. not even single day he ordered outside home work done. he works as a consultant like your H. he sits late night upgrading his skills

    house might not super clean , but not horrible for me to fight.
     
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    he is lazy man. disgusting.

    i have a gujrati cook , she does not even know how to speak in english. she comes to 3 houses for cooking.

    then at night between 10-3 am she works for amazon warehouse, it is dumb job but she works for home, we appreciate her a lot. Amazon pays for her medical insurance.

    h4 ead, your H can do so many things. my H feels bad he does not have EAD

    he can drive UBER
    Fedex is paying 15$ per hr
    walmart, amazon warehouse

    do you need any more examples
     
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    Is the Amazon job work from home??
     
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    pinky18 Senior IL'ite

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    Who can understand IMPORTANCE of work permit other than me, I came on student visa, worked as baby sitter, cook all I can to pay my tuition and other expenses. I waited and worked so hard to get my doctorate ,you know I do remember when I had wasted 5 days without work on my EAD was killing me , that I must use my work permit. It took me too long and hard work to reach where I am today. I make 115k annually and he knows that from my W2...
    I am so much passionate about my job and career, but seeing him SITTING IN HOME AND not giving efforts to find ANY job hurt me EACH second on my own choice.

    I wish I do have EAD, so could catch up with career more.. I am tired you PUSHING him.. o
     
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    no it is not. sorry i mean working for home. she has to label the packages. they have different shifts. full shift pays medical for whole family.
     
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    Don't know what is going on in his mind- do u think he should attend therapy.He seems either to be having something like depression or is he selfish person who just wants to enjoy on spouse's hard work.You need to ask about his long term plans . I don''t think even he would be happy sitting at home, because our society is cruel to men who do that. But i also feel nothing wrong with being a house-husband if he is passionate about it which he does not seem to be so much, you need to delegate tasks to him and put your foot down.

    Also get him checked for vitamin deficiencies , health issues etc - may explain why he may be tired all the time. Next time MIL comes, ask her to train him properly in house-work because that's what he intends to do. It's sad your MIL is just watching this. Everytime she puts pressure on you for male child, you change the topic and ask her to train him first .
     
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    Thank you so much for your response. My MIL is so selfish, so cares only for her needs met. More he listens no one.
     

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