Spouse And Grief Support

First of all, your situation is not something to be dismissed. It is indeed very traumatic and very concerning. You should definitely talk to a counsellor, please take care. I think as women, we have more to hide than speak. My MIL passed away a year and a half ago. I don't know how much DH is affected by it. He never opened up to me except for the first one month after her death. I wonder if men deal with it better or they take it out elsewhere. To me it sounds bad because mother is usually the first person a woman turns to, to discuss or vent. I hope you find someone to get it all out.

 

I think we all have genetically carry these different physical/psychological health issues, which are in not active stage first.
But triggered when our body goes weak for physical/ stress and emotional pain and no support to share etc triggers psychological issues and will start show symptoms and gradually became a chronic issues, if we carry that genes in us.

I would suggest watch this to understand your mom better what she went through, may help you as a closure.


And couple of European movies I watched, out of no where suddenly how they feel suicidal.
I am Sorry if I hurt you in anyway with this post. Ps look in all angels.

 

OP,
I read the answer, all are well thought responses.

You said that you were 'friends' with your husband, in the early years, that's a good point. He definitely supports you in your parenting while balancing your work and home- this is a big +ve. You must have so many good memories in your marriage. You have had a very good healthy marriage till now.
IT hurts when your spouse is oblivious to your sufferings. But I would say, let this one go.
Don't think if he did it on purpose, if to hurt you, or to ignore you? Leave the why etc
for this behavior, and tell yourself (when looking at him) "he is doing his best".

Take care of yourself.

But let this -ve point in your marriage go, since you have so +ve all ready built over the years.