If It Feels Good, Do It?

Isn't this thread about ronak-shonak ?

 

Those two lines you had mentioned are key. Harming others is not something that should feel good. The right thing to do is to help a woman who is stranded on the road fix her vehicle and send her home safely. There one needs to clearly make a discrimination between right and wrong whether doing the right thing feels good or not.

 

Perhaps, feels good now, but won't harm self later.

 

I am thoroughly enjoying this thread - so thank you to the posters of this thread. The words used are so simple yet at the same time I think this discussion is deep and so applicable to many choices in our life.
(On a lighter note)
My decision tree:- Browse IL for a few minutes? Feels good - yes. Feel right - well, yes, it doesn't harm anyone. Hmm, does it harm me - what should I be doing right now? Not browsing IL.

 

OCD

 

I wanted to add something to this. Religious discourses and adult movies are excellent examples you've chosen. But these are not black and white too.

Spiritual discourses - I have heard discourses which have had lasting impact on me and fall in the category you mention. But I am weary of really popular gurus who can use words to detach one from family commitments and instead donate/invest in guru seva and travels to the guru's abode. In the latter case, does it feel good: maybe. Does it feel right: no. Again the no is in my personal context. If I've chosen the path of the householder, my duties lie at home/work first.

Adult movies come in extremely varying levels of quality. A respectful one (though very rare they exist) (also can I say adult literature than movie?), can inspire a young or not-so-young couple to a level of fulfillment in their relationship that might otherwise be fraught with day-to-day mundanities. This might carry forward to a healthier household - meaning happier children, better relations with grandparents, etc. Feels good: yes. Feels right: umm-aww-maybe-no-maybe-yes. And the the umm-and-the-aww is in the context of media/familial conditioning and personal exposure, responsibilities.

 

Can you be too self-confident? Too expressive? Too nice? Too smart? Each of these can have "feel good" aspects.

· Too much overconfidence can make one narcissistic and arrogant. (A moderate amount of self-confidence helps to be an effective leader.

· Too much Conscientiousness and the person becomes a perfectionist, unable to complete tasks because they’re not perfect.

· Too much Openness to Experience and you could be an out-of-control risk-taker.

· Too much Agreeableness and you are too nice – allowing others to take advantage of you.

Moderation in all things is the best policy.
"Feel Good" in Moderation?

If something is too good to be true, exercise caution!