Is How People Are Now?

I have faced the similar issue intact facing...only one fund I follow let it go god is watching...
I know few friends who just want my company to buy thing at grocery in office time ..I go and come ...no hatred

 

Hi OP,

I agree with you that it feels awful when such incidents happen.
Just trying to give you another perspective-
May be she is going through a difficult financial stress that she could only afford limited snack for her child and couldn't invite you home?
Maybe she was occupied with 100 other things in terms of moving?
Maybe she is an extreme introvert?
May be her H was an abusive idiot who wouldn't let her talk about the family decisions like moving?
May be he didn't like kids coming over to their house for a play?
Maybe she was going through some other problem in life which she doesn't want to talk about, which might stop her from inviting you home?
Maybe she didn't really enjoy your company and was only catching up with you for the kid's sake? - this sounds harsh..am sorry for that but there's a chance right !
Not everyone likes is the way we like them a d that's what makes us have certain people as friends a d certain people as just acquaintances and certain as family friends.

You have done the best of what you could do! Organised play dates and gave kids yummy food and drink.. your child is happy with her mum encouraging her play with her friend.

We have no idea what everyone's story is! We don't know what they are going through or maybe as I said everything is fine and she never considered you a friend - that's still okay.
Cheer up buddy! People like this are our teachers to show the variety of mentalities/ situations in society.

 

does she work?

 

I understand. But I feel they have their own ways of having fun.
Maybe she does not like to cook. So pot luck is out of question.
Maybe she already has a very supportive friends circle and she does not need new friends.
Maybe she loves herself so much that she is not looking/waiting for someone to bring additional warmth in her life.
Maybe she is bogged down by unseen/unknown (to outsiders) with loans to keep up the affluence feature!
Maybe she has a problem with the friend you spoke to and she knew you would discuss her so she just avoids the gatherings as much as she can - I knew 2 women whom I used to meet with other friends , F ad C who are very good friends with each other. I was invited to one pot luck and I had a not so nice feeling about this C because she spoke ill of F with me. Later F spoke about C. I avoided them all together. Turns out they both were discussing me in a party and how I avoid those potlucks and whatsapp groups. ! Do I care - hell NO !! Just dont have time for such people ! Not worth my energy !
Do I fight with them - No, but maintain a very conscious distance and respect kids' being friends.

I personally cant maintain friendship with every woman I meet in every gathering and be present in every whatsapp group.
I choose my friends - my little support circle and positive ladies who believe we raise by lifting others and who dislike backbiting and gossips - thats enough for me. I dont need to be friends with everyone on the block. Does that make me selfish ?

Did she say /do anything rude to you or your child? As long as she does not say hurtful words and is not being disrespectful - I see no problem in her.

I say again - we dont know her story fully - nor do we have firsthand info about her , straight from her.

 

in before our dear dash of Amul, who is our IL en-cycle-a-pidia catches this
First billionaire FoF (friend of friend of IL )

Mehana , its likely a 1-2m home she bought

 

Please don't keep too many expectations form acquintances or neighbours or family friends ..
You dont know their interest level in the friendship or their personal family problems..
They may consider as hi - bye relation while you consider as close friend..
not all people are same..maybe in future you'll get better neighbours / friends.