How To Be Positive?

Thyagarajan · Apr 25, 2019

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Thank you @Thyagarajan @ddwilson7725 @Sunshine04 @DDream @happydheivanai for filling my mind with positiveness and tips. This is why I always come back here when I go clueless. sometimes I dont like to open up to besties too. I feel so guilty to open up about in laws and later feel guilty. Here I feel HOME, I can ask you guys to straighten me up, correct me, and I feel the support. Feeling so relaxed. I hope Me and Hubby , In laws and Kids all will enjoy their stay. We live in US and my little one was new born during In laws last visit. I am happy for my kids, they can enjoy grand parents pampering. I am happy for my hubby and his parents, they all can have fun together. My mom physically not in this world, but I know I can make her proud when she is watching me from up there like an angel.
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Your response to feedbacks together gives immense relief as evidenced in your positive statements.
2. May be a minor point - but I wish so say here. Never discuss your in-laws with others even with your close friends in negative manner. You must seek to tell to others only positive side of the which later pay u rich dividends.
3. All the best get ready to welcome the with open arms.
God has designed us with two hands to be ambidextrous.

BeautifulSmile · Apr 25, 2019

@Thyagarajan sir, I surely will consider your advice. . When I got married only advice my dad gave me : Never ever talk bad about In laws with your hubby or to others. Just imagine him talking same way with you about me and your mom and how much it hurts you, its the same pain for him too. Not sure why, but your advice sounded like my dad's..

ddwilson7725 · Apr 26, 2019

Thyagarajan said: ↑

I am sure you would welcome them with some halwa and or kheer.
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You're welcome with halwa

Thyagarajan · Apr 26, 2019

ddwilson7725 said: ↑

You're welcome with halwa
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Thank you. I would welcome it with drooling mouth & open arms when your courier arrives at my home.
God tastes halwa and always leave rest of it as PRASAD for His devotees.

happydheivanai · Apr 26, 2019

BeautifulSmile said: ↑

Thank you @Thyagarajan @ddwilson7725 @Sunshine04 @DDream @happydheivanai for filling my mind with positiveness and tips. This is why I always come back here when I go clueless. sometimes I dont like to open up to besties too. I feel so guilty to open up about in laws. Here I feel HOME, I can ask you guys to straighten me up, correct me, and I feel the support. Feeling so relaxed. I hope Me and Hubby , In laws and Kids all will enjoy their stay. We live in US and my little one was new born during In laws last visit. I am happy for my kids, they can enjoy grand parents pampering. I am happy for my hubby and his parents, they all can have fun together. My mom physically not in this world, but I know I can make her proud when she is watching me from up there like an angel.
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Enjoy

BeautifulSmile · Nov 22, 2019

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Is it possible to wait for in Law's visit with lot of positive feeling? How to be happy of their visit? How to treat them positively and satisfy them? Is it possible?
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Time for self review, as the deadline is approaching (In laws will be leaving in 10 days). Yes I had a list of goals:

· Take good care of In laws and take as many trips as we can.

· Let husband spend full time with his parents without any interrruptions from me or kids.

· Be myself

· Spend more time with kids.

I have exceeded my goal. AS I said it’s a self review. How my in laws rate me or satisfied - went out of my goal JUST because of them. But a big thanks to in laws. Because of them:

1. Kids had good food and sleep.

2. Hubby relaxed a bit from non stop house works.

3. Since a month I have curry ready to eat my dinner as soon as I reach home from office.

4. I was always clingy to my husband just like a new born baby and mom. But not anymore.

5. Always used to expect help from hubby in the kitchen , thanks to her not anymore now.

6. They gave me lot of time by completely avoiding me- THANKS A TON. I well spent that time with my kids.

7. They really really tested my patience level, I did great job in that. I never answered back to them nor show the attitude. So I don’t need to feel guilty.

8. With all the depression I never knew - I can tolerate so much, but I did

9. She was constantly keeping me out of preparing their dinner (No clue why), thank you MIL. Because of you by 8:15pm I am upstairs with my kids. (Of course hell lot of times I felt guilty for not preparing their dinner, but I was forced to not).

10. Thank you MIL for doing your own laundry half in machine half by hands by forcibly making sure I am not involved– because if I wouldn’t have done good washing/folding for which you have to constantly evaluate me. Good for you and good for me.

11. Thank you MIL for helping me to make a list of things where I should improve a lot in your presence next time, for making BETTER and COMFORTABLE me. I will definitely not disappoint you.