Me Too?

I agree with women taking precautions who they drink with and be careful about how much to drink. However, what I was trying to convey is one drink is all it takes if it is spiked. Women never come to know who spiked the drink and they become very vulnerable.

 

Dear Balajee,

Your point is well taken with respect to how there is a thin line between sexual harassment and flirtation. If a woman is uncomfortable about anything said or did once, if the man continues, it is sexual harassment. Conventional women may find shaking hands or hugging a man as not acceptable. Man should respect their views. If they are not outspoken with men, in general, men should not flirt with them. Period.

Regarding women drinking at home and not at pub, why restrict them only to the comfort of their home? Why not men control their drinking without getting inebriated? Why can't they rewire their brain not to hurt a woman? Why can't they work on their predatory instincts?

In general, men are dangerous and therefore, dress moderately, don't drink in public places, return home before dark are things we told all our sisters and daughters at home for decades. The world is changing and women are working in equal numbers in all industries just like men. Why can't we change that rhetoric to tell our brothers and sons not to drink excessively and especially not misbehave with any known or unknown woman?

 

I was about to say the same point but when it comes from a man, it is definitely more effective. Hats off!

 

Well Said Viswa!

 

This was perhaps true some 30-40 years ago but not now. Most women do accept some borderline jokes or comments and would avoid blowing things out of proportion. Anything becomes exploitation or harassment when explicitly things are said or done in her presence or her progress is hindered or physical aspects are brought into the picture.

There is really no need to cry that women are out to destroy men. Often women's complaints were brushed aside. When such harassment happened, due to various factors and circumstances many women kept quite. Today they are coming out. That doesn't make them SHAMELESS!

Already I am hearing men saying they need single sex offices in future, they wouldn't want to work with women or hire them anymore and so on. This kind of knee jerk reaction, slut shaming or trivialising humor are uncalled for. In fact, from senior and experienced men we expect a certain balanced analysis but when that doesn't happen, it is disappointing. We expect seniors lending women an understanding ear and advising men to correct their predatory behaviours. In all these days, I haven't come across a single fulfledged article where men have openly said they need to control their behaviours or share decent workspaces with women. This is sad. Why do they forget that we need to coexist?