Mind Over Matter: The Meditation Club

I am looking forward to this write up.

Note: You and @kaniths just liked my snippet, "Conflict Resolution" and I was looking forward to both your comments as well.

Viswa

 

Will watch this space for tips

 

My introspection consist of the following steps. By no means, I am practicing all of these at all times. But when I slip and fall, I go back and review this list as to how to keep my mind healthy. This list is very helpful for me to review my thoughts, words and actions.

1 - Keep it simple
2 - Keep it uncluttered
3 - Erase undesirable memories
4 - Never keep it idle
5 - Nurture it for health
6 - Never allow emotions to affect it
7 - Spare time for its growth and development
8 - Find ego and replace it with love
9 - Never allow guilt to reside in it
10 - Never use when in anger
11 - Treat it like your best friend
12 - Remain independent of it
13 - Cap desires in it
14 - Encourage detachment to objects
15 - Make it listen to conscience

 

I try to not to think about painful memories. Rather I tell myself I am allowed to think about it say when I go for a walk today. After that Those memories need to wait until my next walk. Initially it was very difficult but slowly my mind got trained not thinking about it. But I don’t think I learnt to let go.

 

You sound like my mother. At bedtime she would rest in the sofa for few minutes in silence, something like a daily thingy. When I had "all grown up" I asked her about it one night, what the sitting in silence meant. She explained that it's her way of handling her worries, a dedicated time to think, to figure out things that bothered her and to prepare herself for what's coming the next day. I think I didn't care much then, now it makes super sense.

 

Good starting pointers, will do my homework.

 

Erase undesirable memories

1 - I began to understand that the root cause was the embedded emotion.

2 - I started evaluating what impact these memories have in my life?

3 - I reviewed the circumstances under which it happened

4 - I reviewed the circumstances that brought those memories back

5 - If needed, I talk it over with a trusted friend/relative as a release

6 - As it resides in subconscious mind, I healed it through forgiving

7 - If it involves a close friend/relative, I took professional help

8 - I visualized the benefits of life without such unpleasant memories

9 - I considered that as a lesson not to experience it again

10 - I allowed the subconscious mind to accept it and move on


I have used these techniques in three circumstances:

a) When my wife and I had serious issues with my own family
b) When someone's family who I respect as a guide, ill-treated me
c) When I had to let go someone who loved me dearly

Viswa