What Is Happening With My Life?

Recently my parents did some puja so they had invited even my MIL . She attended . There one lady ie my mom’s friend who had never spoken to my MIL , went and spoke to her and started asking her if she keeps pressurising me and her son (my DH) for having kids. My MIL said nothing like that and they are not pressuring them .The thing is her daughter is of my age even she got married recently and even she is in US. It seems her MIL keeps pestering about her having kids.

I don’t understand why this lady should go and speak to my MIL whom she hadn’t even interacted before. She said my daughter went after your DIL went and she already got a job dint your DIL get ??
And moreover why she asked my MIL if I got a job ?

But in reality she went to US before me and got EAD before me and recently got a job.

Moreover this lady does lot of show off always!!!

Now coming to the problem , my MIL keeps asking me about my job from the moment I left India. Sometimes I feel annoyed since the same question is being asked in every call. But I keep my cool.
Today she herself told that even your friend got a job she went to US after you ..
I got really annoyed as she meant I still dint get a job from such long time . But reality is tat lady’s daughter came to US before me and got EAD before me!

It’s like adding ghee to the fire. Already MIL was pestering me and DH regarding my job . So even my DH started telling that I wasted my time and I am not serious enough in my job search . But my problem is I had worked on outdated technologies in India , but here they are asking for new stuff. So I need to do training for the same . For training I need money. My DH agreed to sponsor .


Today my DH came home for lunch.
When I was about to serve the food for second time he said he will serve himself later.
So I came to my room and was seeing something related to some job as I was already in a bad mood after my MIL’ call and was under pressure .

So my DH started shouting at me like HELL ! He was like what the hell you I was doing ? Can’t serve the food so irresponsible woman blah blah !!

To which I replied that he had only told me that he will serve himself.
He was like what are you studying now!

So I told already I am losing lot of focus and have got too much pressure,
so learning something . For that he replied 15 min will not make a difference if I serve food to him .

But I was like once the training starts I need to put lot of efforts so I’m trying to get used to it now . He was like who is pressurising me. I said his mom keeps asking me about the job always and meant even my friend got a job but indirectly meant I still dint get the job!
Hearing that he started shouting at me very badly telling what is wrong if his mom asks me about the job always ? Won’t your parents ask the same!
And he said he will not give any money for the training since I blamed his mom for the pressure which is very true !!

I’m going mad like anything . One end his mom pestering me to get a job, other end I have no money to attend trainings and get updated myself !

 

Until morning he was ready but after today’s incident since I dint serve him food for second time he said he is not going to pay

 

Thanks but the one I want in Udemy is not free and I need to pay!

 

Thanks for your valuable feedback @Jamelia02. I am not able to concentrate if such things happen.My mind keeps thinking about those things again and again even if I don’t want to , due to which I’m losing focus!

 

Hi all!
My DH is back from home and was in calmer mood. I dint talk anything regarding the training , but He himself started the training topic and agreed to pay.