Playground Fight Between 4 Year Olds

Can you find the phone number of sk parents and inform them about this incident and the carers attitude. I am really angry at the carer.
God bless Sk.

 

I second this opinion. Op be a bit diplomatic while talking to the parents if u chose to talk as you are not acquainted to sk's parents yet. Be positive , don't worry.

 

Isn't it the clear bullying case? Agree PK is still young. But its the response from adults,that is surprising me.The mother of PK didn't tell anything to her own kid about punching another kid in the stomach,instead jumped into giving advice to the kid who was bullied that it was his fault so he deserved it. The Caretaker's response is really disturbing too. She doesn't deserve the job it seems.Clearly they all were taking benefit of the fact that SK was there without his parents or any of his relatives. Too bad!! If you see this is repeating in the park, if possible find the number of SK's parents and inform them.

 

@Greenbay Over reacted?? bad day?
If one child punches another , then it is his fault. By asking SK to apologise, PK'smom has emboldened PK - he now feels justified to bully /punch anyone who doesnt toe his line. That is a failure on her part as a parent. If her kid is grows up to be a spoilt voilent bully , then she played the biggest part in it.

As a mom, she has to take responsibility for the action of her kid . It happened in her presence , she did nothing to prevent it, did nothing to console the victim , instead further victimised the victim.

Being punched in the stomach/ being told he deserved it/ having a caretaker who didnt take care- all fine and forgotten in a day? I doubt it very much.

@NeerjaC , understandably you are feeling guilty. Sometimes it happens. Wish we could have acted in a more sensible way. Easy for me to say you should have done this/ or that, but perhaps I would have done the same if I were you.

Perhaps if you see the carer the next time with SK, you can ask her for SK's mom's number under the pretext of setting a playdate. And just inform her. Sometimes parents would rather be ignorant - they dont want the hastle of changing carers. But sometimes they might be so grateful for that info. I would say take the risk for the sake of the child.
It takes a village to raise a kid. And our children are growing by in this village too.

 

Op, if it was a 14/15 year old I would have ignored. But with 4 year olds, I would have questioned the mother about pks bad behaviour of punching some other child. Also would have asked the caretaker to check out if SK was hurt and check with pks mother abt her sons behavior.

Also would have ignored if pk had punched his own sibling in mother's presence.

 

How many of you remember what happened when you were 4/5 year old kids?
Some kids are dominating, aggressive and impulsive nature in their early childhood doesn’t mean they grow up to be violent bullies.

PK and SK played well previous day itself but next day, they had a fight. That doesn’t make PK a psychopath who will grow up to be a tormenting bully.Bullies don’t become bullies due to one day aggression. Those are kids who are ignored by parents or grown up in broken homes and had a tormented childhood in their formative years.

Anyway, I think against the normal thought flow here. I have seen kids who were natkhats ( very naughty) grow up to be well natured compassionate adults. Bhagwan Krishna!

 

pk is not a psycho.
his mother is not a good parent. she should have controlled her son. she went ahead and scolded sk,

 

OP,

I can see this incident disturbed you clearly. Please get SK mom's phone number from caretaker saying some party/play date and ask care taker whether SK got hurt on other day and whether she informed about this incident to his parents? And tell general note that you always prefer to stand near to your child to avoid these incidents... tell all these after getting phone number...

She will definitely get frightened and will try to patch up with you, just simply ask these questions and leave from her. dont try to smile or be nice. Even though you are not talking to SK's parents care taker knows that someone is watching her behavior.. if you see the behavior continue for one more time, pls call parents and inform them...
Its upto them to decide...

About PK's mother - i will give damn abt diplomacy or being nice to her, i will IGNORE her... simple.. Then only she will understand that she shouldnt encourage her son's behavior and scolding other kid...

Total Fault is her's only....