Child Beating Badly

Hi!

I have a couple of suggestions and see if they work for your child. Since I haven't been following this thread, please ignore if anybody has already given these suggestions or you have tried them already.

1. Cut sugars from her diet. In some conditions like ADD/ADHD etc this is a suggestion given. Let me make it clear, I am not suggesting that your kid could have these conditions. My view is that what works for those kids works for us too. Even in regular children and adults cutting down sugars is said to have a calming effect. You could google and check. And by trial n error evaluate whether any particular food is triggering 'hyper behaviour' and then remove a type of food from her diet for a week and observe if it makes any difference. Keeping a log helps to monitor better. These days everything is adulterated.

2. As an attention seeking behaviour, kids could display impatience and anger. Even excessive attention feeds this behaviour.

3. Watch your behaviour. If you are a hyper mum, she will get encouraged. Don't pay her attention when she is irritable. keep an eye on her from a distance and remove potentially harmful materials from her reach. If she cries ignore.(it is difficult but..) When she finds that you don't succumb she will give up this 'learned/reinforced' behaviour.

4. Give constructive play items that will engage her instead of high excitement toys like those noisemakers and very brightly coloured ones. If possible remove highly distracting things from the surroundings. Can you play some relaxation music for her?

5. Since your kid is small, if she enjoys, allow her to sit in a tub and play in the water with toys. this will calm her. Don't give hard toys with which she may harm herself or others. When she is older she could play in a sand pit or with clay for calming.

6. Could something at the daycare be triggering? Can you immediately change the centre? We hear a lot of negative things happening at daycare centres right from making children sleep with the help of medicines to physical abuse! Rule this out immediately. Is she being bullied or punished physically?

7. Both parents should be consistent and firm while disciplining, talk slowly and firmly catching her attention while maintaining eye-contact. Children as young as yours are capable of reading a firm movement of a finger or a nod.

Parenting is one of the toughest jobs on this earth. We become parents without any study or training!

All the best. Enjoy.

 

I hope to eventually get him to understand this. At this time, it's really difficult to emphasize that this time is for reflection, and feels more effective as a punishment

When Op mentioned this, I felt the same thing. It really worried that these were not trained women, who followed some protocol on dealing with children. I don't mean that uneducated woman cannot be effective caregivers, but those with early childhood background are able to deal with large groups of children and manage personalities and problems using a specific school of thought. When they notice that one child is prone to biting or pulling hair, they would quickly figure out how to deal with it, and keep it from becoming chaos in the childcare room.

 

Your comment here is so disrespectful to the parents of the little child. I am sure they have enough love that they give him, you just ASS-UMED that the WHOLE family scolds and beats him. Don’t be sorry for the little fellow , be sorry for your comment!

 

Thank you @Sandycandy

I went today with him to the bus stop to spend sometime with him. Thanks to all who suggested me this. I observed his behaviour and found that he shouts only when other person do not agree to him as he wants to. Otherwise he is very polite and behave very nicely. I think I should get agree to him or explain him politely the reason of disagreement. If he do not shout for few days he will forget his behaviour as @Rihana said. Anything more that I should add on to this then please feel free to advice.

 

@Rihana op mentioned the creche was run ny her institution so i ignored the niggle, because there could have been a screening by the organization. don’t discount the village ladies, they do a better job then some of the regular creches in ciities in india. that said @Sweety2016 i hope you are convinced on safety aspects in the creche if not better reevaluate.

 

@MonikaSG somebody at home must be shouting their point across and he is trying to copy that. and please some kids are handful and it is not their fault, we as parents need to understand and work with them. he needs to understand shouting does not make his view right and you will listen only if he talks clear and without shouting. it is a practice.

and yes if you get your hands on adele faber books, nothing like it according to my son’s counsellor..