Miscarriage- How To Support Husband?

My hugs to you dear..My suggestion would be to take a break for two days and have short trip.It will be a great diversion for you too.If possible go with friends.Go for a movie.Keep yourself engaged.Go out to play any of your favorite games. Cook something special for him just to surprise him. Be strong..Time can heal everything. All the best dear...

 

@Meghaa , So sorry to hear of your loss.
I have found that men get hit harder emotionally, perhaps their grief coping mechanism is less able than ours. You dealing with your grief and wanting to lessen your DH's pain only shows how much love and strength you have. You two will get thru this.
Years ago a close male colleague faced a similar situation in the 5th month. He was devastated and withdrew. Slowly with his wife's support he made it thru. He is my boss now . That made me realise the need to grieve and the need for closure to move on .
I am not sure if there are any special customs in India. I hesitate to post these links wondering if reading them will cause you to relive your pain. But maybe , just maybe it will help you.

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/01/06/.../the-japanese-art-of-grieving-a-miscarriage.html

Mourning My Miscarriage

 

'Common' does not mean easy - it is simply a statistical statement devoid of emotional content. We all die, but that knowledge does not make things any easier for any of us. We still grieve. Attachment begins before birth, and a miscarriage is experienced as death and loss. Each person grieves in their own way. A friend of mine, who lost her husband suddenly and unexpectedly, said to me that her waves of grief come and go. There are good days and bad days. You are in control one minute, and then you aren't. That is simply the way it is. Coping with grief is a process, not an event.

Traditional rituals are explained as rites setting the soul on its way into the afterlife, but they are just as much protocols for processing grief. Sometimes an inquiry from a caring person helps and at other times it brings back painful memories at a moment when you are not prepared for them. If you live in the United States or Europe, you might consider grief counseling for your husband. Counselors may not say anything you don't already know, but they are trained to be patient, non-judgementally receptive elicitors of unexpressed thoughts, feelings, and pain. They will refrain from offering facile advice. They cannot eliminate grief, but they can help manage his feelings - after all, life does not pause for us; we still have to get on with the quotidian even as we deal with grief. A counselor may help him cope.

Best wishes. I hope both of you come out of this dark patch in your life safe and healthy in body, mind, and spirit.

 

Same issue with trying since 3 years 1 iui 1 ivf failed. Multiple timed intercourses failed. I stopped everything wanting a break and to get fit. And the moment l stopped is when I became pregnant. And in no time I also started miscarrying. All my dreams are shattered