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Mind Full Of Negativity.. Need Suggestions

Discussion in 'Health & Wellness' started by kshema, May 29, 2017.

  1. kshema

    kshema Bronze IL'ite

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    Hi,
    I am a homemaker have 3 years baby, I always have negative thoughts in mind and fear. Example
    1.I feel fear to send my baby to school.. If someone hit him or if he fll down or something like that..
    2. If my dh goes outside in bike or car or flight... I think negative and always telling him to call or msg me. If didn't call I feel very nervous..
    3.I sit in front of car and always tell my dh to go slow slow and inside my mind I think if something happenes...
    By god's grace I have no problems in family life. Still I can't stay happy and enjoy my life..
    Is it a disease...? Please need suggestions. Thanks in advance
     
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  2. sindmani

    sindmani Platinum IL'ite

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    Please , Change ur thinking . once a negative thought comes, change it to positive . affirm it more number of times. When u say " something bad will happen", suddenly stop and say" only good things will happen. God is great, we are all fine and safe". After few days u will be positive thinker. But still if it persists , consult with ur family members and get their help to make u think positive.all the best. It is normal. Every one has fears. That's all
     
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    Nonya Platinum IL'ite

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    1. Preschool babies have to be escorted to school by a responsible, safe person. Parents will have to go into the school, and chat with the teacher. Does your child like the teacher ? does the teacher seem happy and affectionate to all the children in her class ? Do you bring chocolate/fruits to the teacher, (they boost her energy to put up with children, and nervous moms) every time you visit and chat with her ? All these actions would ease your mind.
    2. Emotional dependence on husband is perfectly fine. If you also have financial dependence, talk to an insurance agent about it. Also, continue to educate yourself so that you can be ready for a job, as soon as children grow up and could be semi-independent.
    3. Riding on the front seat of a car with no control over the car by oneself is always a little frustrating. I would start pushing the non-existent break pedal on the floor when I feel nervous. The best solution to this issue is to drive the car yourself. if you do not know how, learn to drive and get a license.

    There is always some meditation method to calm your nerves. And of course, there is chemical help from prescription-wallahs.

    Like is a gamble. Risk can be managed.
     
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    kshema Bronze IL'ite

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    Does meditation and yoga helps?
     
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    Srama Finest Post Winner

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    I think for starters, may be saying a favorite prayer repeatedly might help. I will never say no to Yoga! I am sure you will be able to start this out. Start small and you will see progress. Best wishes to you.
     
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    LIFE is a gamble.. is what I wanted to type earlier....
    Meditation --to clear the mind....think sweet thoughts.... and stay there a while -- is a good bet.
    Yoga helps to flexibilize yourself...in small increments. This is different than being adjustable.
     
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    Dear op
    Sending warm hugs & prayers to you.There are so many positive speeches available in YouTube . Listen to few . Subscribe which you are able to understand



    Definitely meditation will help



    Whenever your mind starts negative thought try to deviate.
     
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    ashneys Platinum IL'ite

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    You are feeling what most people does. I remember my parents telling a 100 times to be careful if I or my bro steps out and if it gets delayed to inform them that we have reached safely, they will panic n call 10 different people to check if we have reached. It continues even now and I can understand it very well now. Because When my child goes to school n my dh to work, I go through the same thing. I fear for their safety, I pray they reach back safely. I think it's because we can't imagine any harm coming to them that it turns to this kind of fear.

    I overcome it saying there is danger everywhere. Including the so called "home" is not 100% safe. N I feel if I let fear rule me, I can't live and I won't let my family live either. N I most definitely do not want to push that fear onto my child. So as long as you are not stopping your family's day to day life because of this, it's fine. If you are, get help. Remember, When you try to hold, it will be lovely n pleasant but if you try to squeeze, it bursts out.
     
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    Naari Platinum IL'ite

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    It is very common to feel worried about your kid or husband ocassionally, but if it constantly worries you, then you need to control your mind and redirect it to positivity. I felt the same way about my daughter when I was sending her to daycare and school for first time, but I have seen that they do perfectly fine without us. I feel like there is a bigger force at play who takes care not only of your kid, but also you and your whole family.

    I think the issue here is not of fear but of mind control. I feel like any negative emotions be it fear, worry, anxiety if left unchecked and if you let the mind wander and obsess about any one single thing, it will do just that and almost make you a patient. The best thing to do is acknowledge that 'ya, it is a concern, but I chose the right school, right teachers, and my kid will just be fine'. Do not dwell upon the fear, change your thoughts, take up some mental activity immediately. That was the way to stay healthy and sane, I have realized for me.
     
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    Hahahahah.... LMAO. Very Good !! Just the thing to take OP's mind off the high anxiety.
     

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