Life Is Merciless

cheenu123 · Mar 24, 2017

Hi Friends,

I have an important update to share.
I have finally got divorced, legally.
Life has taken a full circle.
I still remember when I joined this site in 2013, when I was struggling as a newly married woman.

To all those who are struggling in their married lives, I would like to say that marriage is a beautiful institution if you can sieve what's important and discard the trash. To all those who are separated and contemplating divorce, let me tell you that it is a difficult journey but if you have made up your mind, tread cautiously.
It is important to practice extreme self-care to build your life again.
Life was once merciless or so I thought. Today however, I strongly believe that life is a result of your choices.
You have the ability to turn it around.
Have faith.

satchitananda · Mar 24, 2017

Hugs to you Cheenu. Am glad you got out of a painful relationship. Praying that you find the strength to move on in life and that you see much happier times very soon.

SGBV · Mar 24, 2017

More than the news, your self control and attitude make me feel proud of you.
I am sure, you will come out of this.

Looking forward to read a happy thread from you soon with a title "life is a blessing"

My best wishes!

yellowmango · Mar 24, 2017

Best Wishes for the future Cheenu .

NeetaR · Mar 24, 2017

May God bless you on your onward journey....and help you rebuild from the ashes of your life.

omnam · Mar 28, 2017

Good to read about it. God bless you with good and happy life

Love

GoneGirl · Mar 28, 2017

Now that the worst is behind you, with your positive attitude am sure things will be great in future.. best wishes Cheenu!

Chaitanya95 · Mar 29, 2017

cheenu123 said: ↑

My journey in this site started some 3 years back as a newly married woman trying to learn and unlearn from experiences of sage women over here and seeking solution to my problems for which I could not vent anywhere else. Who knew that my married life would see such a downward spiral that today, its been around 3 months that I’m at parents and me and my DH have decided to call it quits and both sets of families have agreed (non consummation-oh how these 2 words suck the life out of me+excessive mental harassment from MIL & SIL).

It seems that MIL & SIL were waiting and none of them made a single attempt for reconciliation when every time before this, I was the one who took an initiative to mend things. But this time things got nasty and my father spoke very rude words to my MIL & DH and even raised his hand as if he would hit DH but he stopped. My MIL+SIL+DH are bad mouthing my father & brother that how dare they tried hitting him? I am extremely disgusted by in-laws. Is it OK for Indian men and their atrocious families to completely derail a woman’s sanity in 4-walls of home and exercise mental cruelty on her by not giving her a basic conjugal right of consummation, by torturing her over her everyday food choices+dressing sense + family background+ looks so much so that a highly qualified independent girl is reduced to zero? But if the same thing comes out in open and the girl’s family reacts in disbelief by swearing and only pretending to hit, all hell breaks lose? That means my MIL SIL and DH are allowed to slowly poison me and reduce me to a non-entity but the moment my parents react it is not tolerated? This time my DH dint even bother saying that he will go for a treatment, for him, the shock of my father shouting at him was too much for his ego and every atrocity that he and his family ever indulged in, pales in comparison to it.

I’m extremely saddened by the cruel realizations which have dawned on me. I tell myself everyday not to hate anyone but I just cant seem to help myself. There was a time when I shared a beautiful bond with my DH but my MIL & SIL ruined everything. My MIL just couldn’t share him with anyone and he was too blinded by him.
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I understand the diffivulty that youbarr going through. I am sorry for you. But, you have got to Stay positive and approach things from a problem solving perspective distancing yourselves from the problem.