Is "marriage" Outdated ?

Hit and miss.
No reason to marry early as you could meet lot of people in your life. Everyone wants to take time.

 

Most of my single friends are single not because they want to be. They have reasons such as haven’t found the guy with right horoscope yet, break up, career etc. There is break up even after engagement.

So, when they do get married, sometimes it gets hard to get pregnant due to age factors. Marriage market is getting tough out there.

As for me, I married the love of my life. Even with my great career, being a wife and mom is what makes me happy. Maybe I will be alone when I get old. But, the life now matters.. Those hugs and kisses from the tiny people in our life is so worth it

 

Why is marriage within quotes in the title of this thread ?
As an institutional invention for various purposes (development of agrarian societies, economics, social-order, security etc..) the scheme called marriage had evolved in its various forms.

One could be amazed at the list in wikipedia, of the various types of marriages. My all time favorite is something called Morganatic Marriage. A marriage between persons of unequal societal standing, or wealth. And the name is perfect for childish echolalia. This kind of marriage is often the cinematic theme in desi movies... bollywood, kollywood and everything in between.

As these few posts had said already, Marriage is good, when it is deemed good.
It isn't when it isn't.

Jane Austen, who wrote a lot of marriage novels had this to say.

 

A colleague of mine is from switzerland and her parents got married when she was 12. Otherwise for all other purposes they were like a married couple staying together. I wondered why in such an open minded society they decided to get married after being together so long when there were no as such any special benefits to married couple. She said they got married so that she could get a proper name, although i m still not clear what she meant. Just wrote this case to give an idea how deeply instilled the idea of marriage is. Personally i am ambivalent about the concept of marriage. Especially since the rigid rules of society make it a bondage sometimes

 

Weddings are nice to have. Family and friends come together, behave (for the most part), have a nice meal (or a few meals), and catch up on things.

Marriages are suffered by the couple who have decided to enjoin their assets together, and see what happins.... to their assets, psyches, and everything else in their lives.

Marriages work best when there is a huge (adequate? acceptable? mutually agreed upon ?) amount of feduciary responsibility about conjoined assets. If not, they are a drain on the emotions of the participants.

Marriages are most certainly more confusing than this message. It ought to scare the heck out of those who contemplate that.

 

Do you mean, like a cold shower? Dont think, jump in??

How much you read girl? How much you retain!!!! Do you quote in real life too? Sometimes I feel reading you is like listening to KamalHassan..

 

Shower ? Jump in ? No... you should never jump when you have no idea about whether the floor of the shower stall is concreate or slippery mosaic. You jump into pools of water, when you are assured of some depth. Not too deep, not too shallow, but just right for your heft/weight, like Goldilocks would have it.

What quote ? What retain? Those are originals.... When you reproduce, you make sure that you mention the copyrights to Nonya, the malaysian mixedup.

 

There is a very interesting book called "Silent Wife" which deals with this very topic. What happens when you live with the love of your life for decades without the stamp of marriage? When everyone you meet presumes you are Mrs so&so and behaves with you the same way, when you cook for your long term partner, look after his needs and do everything a married woman does, but at the end does it make a difference? Its an eye opener for the protagonist of the book as well to the readers.