How Do I Deal With It

I'd suggest just continue taking all the help you can get and chill. Once the baby has settled into a routine and you get to sleep a bit in the night, do contribute. take care.

 

its her choice not to hire a cook n maid, so let her deal with it....I understand she doing all the work is making you feeling uncomfortable but just hang on there for some more days....she will soon come around...

 

Just enjoy this time OP.
Your baby is growing fast....this time won't come back.
If mil wants to work...let her,unless she is really over worked.
Soon you will be able to help out.If you feel you can make the rotis again...start doing it.Tell her you want to get back to doing things again.
You can wash baby clothes in the washing machine . Just add some softner .
Get your husband also involved in taking care of baby. It is important that the father also gets used to taking care and the baby is used to him taking care.It is very important for a working woman.

 

There are 2 possible solutions, if your MIL needs help at home, but you (as a working new mom) can't offer any...
1) Arrange for a paid helper (maid/cook/nanny) to replace your role as much as possible
2) Make your husband share the chores with his mom.

Ask MIL and H to sit down and figure out which is the best option.

Maternity breaks are to spend max time with the kid. Also you may focus on catching up your office work and training the kiddo to manage without Mom. Like using breast pump and training kiddo with a bottle, sleeping time etc..

 

Why are you behaving as if you are a guest at in laws' place?
It is your place, and it is your right to live there. Above all, you are paying your bills.
Ask H whether the food is ready, if you are not in talking term with MIL. Ask him to check whether his mom made enough for all the 3 of you. If you need more, ask H. If he wants to stand by his mom, he must work hard to make you comfortable with it. Don't feel uncomfortable for being rude. Because it is their choice. They made this choice to serve you, instead of leaving this duty to a paid helper. Let them serve you until they are done with it. Then go for a maid.

Ok, do your share of baby stuff. At the same time assign certain duties to your H. If he feels like vomiting, let him find an alternative method to do it. If son can't handle, let mom handle it. It is not your mistake. Why feel guilt for it

 

You have your priorities right. Spend time with your child. Unabashedly ask for more if it's not enough or just go and get it yourself. Don't wait for permission. Or react to your mil's tantrums. Make yourself what you want without any compunction - everyone has to eat and it isn't a sin for women to eat well and to their choice. If your MIL wants to baby your husband, let her.

Mine tried being overbearing and I simply said, "he is an adult. Why should I do that for him? am I his mother? if you want to baby him and embarrass him, feel free" Then I ignored every other taunt or faces she would make with just a roll of my eyes. If I'm making some tea or juice or coffee, I'd ask if anyone wants. of nobody did, I'd make it for myself anyway. If she accuses me of being wasteful, (breathing itself might be considered being wasteful) my response would be an irritated what nonsense or how old-fashioned. being dismissive didn't change her views but at least made her shut up.

I'm glad you stood up for yourself and now can see a change in your husband. Keep at it. Remember you can't change your mil. you can keep her nonsense at bay with your attitude.