What Is Your Take On The Issue Of Leaving Elderly Parents In Old Age Homes?

Another controversial subject is probably....the desire to live on and on (or the desire to keep loved ones living on and on)irrespective of your physical and mental state .

I don't want to be fitted with a pace maker or revived and put on a ventilator at ninety.
When I can no longer take care of myself physically or mentally...I would like nature to take it's course naturally . Give me pain killers and let me go peacefully with dignity.

 

Tv serial rules

I think i need to watch "kyonki saas bhi kabhi bahu thi" to get a grip on my MIL. Never had time. But now i have all the time in the world

 

Desires - insatiable desires for clothes, jewels, land, money, cosmetics, phone, tv, microwave, mixer grinder, kitchen dibbas - endless list, even the coffee glasses are "mine".....

And my family - my son, my daughter my my my... but work is "yours"

Initially i thought there were some mental health issues as "mine" is an obsession. Now I know better.

 

Thats provision is also there in indian culture, called as vanprasth, from 50 years to 75 years, before sanyaas aashram...where you suppose to give up the control of household for next generation while spending your time in pooja paath and sprituality while living in same household only.

 

There are very few people who are takers of this setup. And those who do, have at least a semblence of peace in their house. It would be wonderful if more people were open to this idea

 

I have for the first time in my life started watching one serial called"Kuch Rang Pyaar ke Aisse bhi".It is like watching the relationship forum on screen.

 

What if the elderly are happier living on their own for as long as they can?

A widow in my husband's side of the family chose to live with her widower brother instead of her two sons. They both take care of each other .

She has fairly good relations with sons and dils.(from what I know) Both families have very young children.The lady in question is the the quiet peace loving type and finds it difficult to be around such small naughty kids.

This is also another option.Siblings choosing to come closer after all responsibilities of family are taken care of.That way they get to live with family their own age....specially if they lose a partner.

 

The issue is not about whether elders should be taken care of by the children....to me its the lack of alternative
When women started working outside home and kids opted out of joint family day cares sprung up as option for child care..it is reasonable even when its not perfect...but we dont have that option for elder care. The options when they exist are pitiful or are unaffordable.