Need Suggestion

Good that you have heeded to all the wonderful advices....
Please never ever try to contact the guy again. There's every chance that the relationship might get rekindled. Delete his messages and whatsapp chats...if there are any. Take care of your child.
Move on...All the best....

 

Also block and delete his phone number, emails, history of any thing related to him so u will never get tempted to call him again, that is good that he didn't do much fuss when u don't want to keep contact any more, but he may call again and try to convince u. So block everywhere .

 

No judgement from me.

Lot of ladies in your situation would have done same thing. Lot of ladies. And to me you are a lady!

But this was poor poor judgement on your part. But you are a human being and a lady.

Your husband didn't make this a happy marriage life for you.

Lot of human beings cannot handle such a horrible situation (poor intimacy in marriage ---- that is grounds for divorce, at least in USA!)


Best is to cut it off with the Internet "man". If he is cheating on his wife, what makes you believe he is not cheating on you.

Please heed the advice of the ladies and cut it off with this Internet "man"

 

After deleting his info, change your sim card as well... that's what i did after I caught my husband cheating after i gave birth..

 

@Hopinggood I am experienced with the low T issue. Your case & so many others is proof that this condition wrecks havoc in married life if not addressed quickly. There are several women on IL whose marriage ended in divorce due to this problem. Mine included.

Two parts to my answer - medical and personal. Medically low t can lead to early death becos it is often associated with a whole host of other symptoms (heart disease being the most common & significant). Unless he wants an early death he would do well to take care of it immediately. Causes for low T is vast - thyroid issues, prolactin issues, pituatary issues and so on. So your doc rather than just writing a prescription for testosterone shots patches or gels shld order a hormone panel to identify other co existing conditions like mentioned above.

Personally - ED is a major issue that men struggle to deal with regardless of their color, education, country and class. It is a sensitive topic that most prefer to live in denial or pretend that this will go away on its own. Often the man will blame the woman & the relationship issues as being the cause of their non-existent libido - thereby switching the cause & effect. Becos such men have low libido and desire they dont see what all the fuss is about that their partner is making. Some men wld prefer not to "spoil their body" with meds that will result in benefits to their spouse. Only one who feels the hunger can know the pain and will be motivated to do something. It is not surprising therefore that many such men become more proactive after their wife or gf has left them. Or at least given ultimatums.

A note on ayurvedic stuff - it does nothing for this condition contrary to people's feverish beliefs. There, i just saved you precious time. He needs some medical intervention starting with blood tests.

Its a tough call for women married to low T men because they get slammed by the man for bringing this up, and if they keep quiet nothing gets fixed anyway, and when the woman decides to leave an unfixable situation they get criticised by clueless, idle third party characters.

Your husband needs to realize the gravity of the situation asap and do something to avoid more health & marriage complications. Him getting medical help is the best happy ending to your problem. It will prevent your life and his life spinning out of control. He can enjoy a happy family life, live longer, feel like a normal man his age again. You wont need to break up your family or break his heart & yours by cheating on him.

In summary, in order for your issues to be resolved & stay resolved in the years ahead , you need to be in a supporting role with your husband taking proactive primary responsibility for his health.

As for you - I hope you wont blame yourself or accept any undue blame he places/might place on you. Try to be a supportive wife and bring vital facts to his attention. You dont have a job or skills. If your husband cant or wont fix his issues, you should take a call based on what your options are. If you have a plan, the guts and the finances to support yourself, go for a divorce. Mind you - it wont be easy with a kid and the history with your husband. If you can't divorce - do whatever you need to do to be sane (but be thoughtful, safe & practical).

 

Good you cut him off. I would suggest avoid those 2-3 messages as well.