It Is Never A Good Time!!!! Vent!!

I am very upset about something and it is bothering me so much. I want to share it with all of you and that would definitely make me feel better.

This is about our vacation plan to India and I just realized that it will never be a good time for that all because of my DH. I believe he is postponing our India trip just because he has some fears/thinks it is not a good time. But I feel it will never be a good time and I am just tearing up whenever I think of it.

Our DS is going to turn 2 and we were supposed to visit India for a short trip when he was around 1 just to show our child to our families and to have a good time. However, at that time, my family were searching for a bride for my cousin brother in full swing. So, DH told that lets wait for a while and go for his marriage. I thought that was a great idea. I am very close with my maternal side of the relatives i.e. my aunts/uncles are like second set of parents for me and my cousins (1 girl, 2 boys all younger to me) are just like my own younger sister to me.

We are still on H1 waiting for our GC and going by how things are right now, it might take over a decade to get there. We very recently bough a house too.

My cousin brother's wedding is in Dec and now (since past few weeks/months) my DH is saying that we cannot go because it does not look like a good time :-( He says that our visa and his passport validity is less than a year and he does not think we should plan for a vacation now. Moreover we just now bought a home on mortgage. The thing is since our i-140 is approved we are eligible to extend the visa innumerable times until we get our green card. And his passport is valid at least as long as his visa. He is very stubborn and I am finding it hard to reason him.

I am crying everyday inside that I will miss the occasion and a chance to see everyone at one place which is very handy in India trips. I wouldn't have to travel to see them. I cannot imagine what my mom, sis, cousins and everybody else will go through if I say we are not coming for the wedding. Especially my mom will break down. My DH is saying that we will plan 2 years later after we have the second one. It has already been 4 years since I visited India. And my parents came once here in between; however, they cannot come in any near future.

Have you ever had to deal with a situation like this where your heart yearns to be there but for whatever reasons couldn't make it? And how do you cope up?

My problem is that we actually could make it if DH would allow. It is just him not allowing us to go. I will keep trying to convince him.