Have You Ever Felt Guilty Of Ending A Friendship?

How many people are you going to hide from?
I think you should raise your self esteem. Work on that.

When my son was young, I used to pick him up everyday and used to talk to the mom's for an hour or so where the kids play, thats why most of my close friends are my son's mom's. After I started working I did not make new mom friends. When you drop and go, its hard to make friends.

I don't know your need for being social, for me, I need people around me. Its hard for me to be alone, and in this country we are fewer choices too. When the kids are young, pick few friends you can get along with because, usually those friendships goes long way. If the issues are small and once in a while, ignore , none of us are perfect, if its constant, just move away and move on.

 

Ended friendship with two friends because everything was according their own term.There was lot of powerplay going on.Dont feel guilty.

 

@anika987 ....you don't have to run away from that ex friend. If you have to attend the kids birthday parties, then attend for your kids happiness. Don't worry about that lady if she too attends the party. Just say hi, hello and keep your talks minimal. Don't get into long conversations. Try to spend time with other parents in the party.

Don't give such an importance to that lady in your life. She is not your life, you didn't do anything wrong, so you don't have to hide from her. Who is she to decide your happiness, is she worth so much that you are spending so much of your valuable time thinking about her and worrying about her? In a way you are giving so much of importance or value to her by spending time on her. Just ignore dear & attend the parties confidently.

 

even i was bullied my mom was a bit narcissist so u know probably daughters were not well groomed in teen(well.. diff story altogether).so as of now my only friend is my husband since i have taken career break i do not want to contact any one unless Im in new job .i dont know if i should be happy actually im very happy with husband his friends function mrg ,birthdays etc i go but i dont have any friends i dont like my school friends but old workplace friends i like whom i dont want to contact due to career break.sometimes i feel im weird.also im too sensitive in friendships.

 

OMG, this is exactly the reason I ended a friendship with a bully 2 years back. Just plain told her that I would not take non sense from her even if she considers it is normal to bully her friends.

Do I feel guilty? I did for initial month or two. But every time I would think of her, I would get a mild heart attack. Heck, every time her call would come, I would go into a downward spiral of negativity. It took me months to realize that It is ok to disconnect with her. People do not always need to stay on in our lives if they do not bring us any joy at all. It is easier if they are not close family.
Did I miss her? I could only remember the world of pain she was to be around. I choose to not let people like her consider as friends. I doubt what she would be thinking about this. But you know what they always replace one friend by another to bully on.

Even if this person meets you again, do not over think about how you disconnected with her. Just know that you have every right to chose who you want to be friends with. Kid will grow up, life will go on and you will have one less person to worry or think about.