Help Me To Decide To Continue Pregnancy Or Not

Hi,
Issues:
1. Regarding babies getting infection post delivery is unpredictable, and I am sorry for you to have to endure such a hardship with your newborn. Now that they have come out of it, is good. It is something which we can't assume that all the subsequent pregnancies are going to be affected, as it is not genetic or having congenital anomalies. So it should be fine if you want to continue with this pregnancy.
2.You/and your wife, have to decide whether you want to continue or not with this pregnancy. I am not going to talk about the ethical aspects, because that is a big discussion topic. I have some links for you to read about it. My thoughts are for myself and I would not like to enforce it on others. I would prefer you to make this judgement call after discussion with your wife. All I want to tell is, whatever decision you make as a couple, stick to it and never allow other people's view to dictate your decision.

BBC - Ethics - Abortion: Introduction to the abortion debate

https://www.sahealth.sa.gov.au/wps/...ERES&CACHEID=83a92880452d4a61835cd3005ba75f87

Hope this helps.
Regards,
Vaidehi

 

Lot of things play a role in deciding whether you want keep a third child or not.

Like
1. Financially how well you are..
2. ability to take care of 3 kids 2 years apart, like Who is going to help toddlers post delivery.
Its again you and your better half to decide.

Like vaidehi71 mentioned,decision cannot be based on morality.

 

My SIL was in similar situation 8 years ago, but they went ahead with the third one. Now they have a 13 year old, 9 year and a 8 year old and I can see how well the kids bond and are their for each other. In between my jija lost job twice and was on social security for 8 months but they managed well plus they had no help for all the three pregnancies neither from in-laws or her in-laws. As you said you are in US, I think you know tax-benefits associated to kids.
How old are your daughters? Can you start pre-school for them or for at-least your elder one?
Your main concern about health of the newborn, well that's unpredictable. As each pregnancy and child is different and it really is hard to predict what's in store for us.

Taking care of 3 kids is definitely a roller coaster ride, but manageable with proper planning. It's good that ur in-laws are coming for help. If you can rotate their visits say every 3 months. Like for delivery the mom-in-law comes, father joins later after child birth or at 4-5 month.

All the best!

As the two posters said "decision cannot be based on morality."

 

Honestly, if your wife is physically fine and you guys are financially fit and can afford help or have the confidence to manage,I would say go for the third.