Enlighten Me, Please..

don't feel worthless... all are different in their character appearance and way to attract or ignore people. She is doing it in her way you do it in your own way.. feeling jealous is normal but when you are doing your work properly dont think about anything else just let it go. dont think what students feel about you.. some students use lecturers to get marks and talk at their back later too some they really praise lecturers so dont worry just ignore

 

of course its normal after all we are human beings have our own emotions so dont bother .. just focus on something else when you feel like that and divert your mood

 

Your co worker lecturer is undoubtedly taking care of the students by guiding them..reading out to them during exams..
But since she's always surrounded by students and their noise disturb other staff is a matter of concern. You can politely ask her to tell her students to follow the decorum of the staff room.
She can solve their problems during her class and at the same time ask them to not make noises as other students and teachers gets disturbed.
Regarding the jealousy part...hmmm..well..we're humans and have this tendency. But since it's disturbing you a lot then the best way to deal with this to IMAGINE yourself in her place...doing good things...helping students...and despite all this another teacher feeling terribly jealous of you....
Then you will realize how much negative vibes are emitted from us when we're jealous of someone's achievements...
Meditate and pray to God for a calmer you...

 

When i was in College, engg, perse and a hosteller, where we had lecturers staying, no one,I say no one helped us (I am talking about 23+ years ego)..even when we fell sick..so this person going out of her way to do things for them stands apart for them. being their counsellor is not wrong.. it does become something wrong,if she goes out of her cc.
the gifts are just simple things and i am sure she would knows where to draw the line. We don't find many who sit for hours reading out to students..in the days where they just read out a notes which is again a copy from some guide or textbook she seems really passionate about being a teacher..

@sweetygal that said, it is ok to be jealous..just relax and do yours...

 

To be frank, I think your colleague is definitely an abnormal person. Well, she has all the negative aspects a person, in the position of lecturer can have.

The negatives:

- Do anything for the students--what do you mean by this, do you mean solving their love affairs!. What kind of lecturer makes them to get to lower their position, like that!. OMG, she needs a real good lecture!

- Solve their fights--, Are you sure she is indeed a good lecturer.

Let me tell my perspective of this person. She is lowering her dignity for the sake of solving and interfering in personal lives of her students. I had never come across such a lecturer in my entire life at all. Seems our country not only lags a lot of things, the most important thing it lags is a good lecturer. Sure she is down at the last rung of the ladder in this regard.

Oh God, it is Engg college, and she is doing as if she is being in a primary school.

Well, as far as you are concerned, you are a normal person.

Just feel that you are normal and just ignore that person, who needs to change her life perspective. Infact I would be glad if I had been her student to be as far away from her as possible.

So take care and good luck.

 

@vaidehi71 many engg colleges in this part of the country are primary schools..you did not know that?. and my guess is the lady would be just a few years elder to these students..happens.. all permutations and combinations...

that said i feel when you are feeling jealous about the attention received, everything looks too much..

i agree to disagree with you on being abnormal.. just because a person is too involved it does not mean abnormal..it means she is not still into defining boundaries..

 

Since it's a part time job, why waste so much time thinking about someone?

Secondly, each one has a different personality and approach. So it's okay .

I guess you should concentrate more on improving your skill set and specializing in the subject you teach. Try to simplify the concepts for the students to grasp it in easier. That way you will earn more respect, which will be more meaningful than some random gifts received for solving love stories.

That's how you handle such situations- Keeping your mind occupied on more productive things.

All the best