Violent Behaviour Of Dh

Op...Congratulations for your little angel !!!
Stay with your mom .Collect all proof of his violence and his demands for money.
Now you have a daughter.You have to become stronger and less emotional.
Think about your daughter.
What kind of a father is this guy going to be?

 

Please don't leave your job, call your mom to look after baby when you go to work and take apartment on rent close to your work place. Search for another job too (close to your mom's place and good pay as you mentioned), till you get another, don't leave current job,

 

let ur uncle make a complaint to local law enforcement , once ur dh sees the cops he will be alright.

 

OP, Run !!. Go and stay with your mom. Your hubby will never change. If he didn't become responsible being a father, he never will. He is looking for next drink from you.Cut him off and go live with your mom. Taking oath and all is fine for strong minded people. Not for people like your hubby who are not concerned about anything but drinking and drinking.

Right now go with your mom and stay separate. People who tell you to give one more chance are not living with your hubby. He needs to be cut off cold turkey. If he sees light fine otherwise you and your daughter are better off by yourself.

Instead of waiting for miracle to change your hubby, do something yourself. Pack your bags go with your mom. Don't come into promises and come back. Be firm and instead look for better jobs in MNC's. Your daughter will only increase expenses. Instead of trying to reform a grown man , concentrate on your kid and yourself. Start looking for better jobs in good companies and interview like crazy. Your life will be much better and calm. Stop thinking how to reform a marriage which only you are in and concentrate on things you can change.Good Luck.

 

Your husband is assh*le.He is not going to change.Dont leave job.Leave your place and shift with your mother.

 

Congratulations on your baby. And huge hugs to you.

Listen, my dear. Don't count on hin changing. You need to go to the police. Go to the women's cell and complain about his abuse and harassment. The laws for protecting people in your vulnerable state can only be effective if you make use of it.

Please do not go back to him. Even if you have to go back to that town for work, get a separate accommodation. Or find a job near your mum's place. That would be better.

Right now just enjoy the time with your baby. You don't want to go back to him. That is half the battle won.

No. Staying with someone that volatile even for a day is dangerous. So please don't go back to him.

You will need a job. Stay with you mum and find one. I hope your relatives can see what a harrowing time youve had and can support you until you establish yourself. Take care. Xx

 

Please don't leave your job at any cost!!! Financial independence is the first step to take any decision. Take a rental apt close to your work place / try and extend your maternity leave and use this time to look for another job close to you. Do you and mom live in different cities? If it is same city, even if it is difficult, commute from your mom's place for some time. Let your husband realize what he misses, your daughter is better off away from an alcoholic father.

 

You are right ,he will not.He doesn't even realize he is wrong....he is not ready to accept he is wrong.He is a hopeless case.

You have to inform the police.This is serious.Take some relative with you after discussing the threat with them.