Teens and Birth Control Pills

dimhere · Dec 9, 2015

Really interesting points in this thread. Not just about dating, I am looking for pointers on even smaller things. How much to "allow" the kids in US to do?

@Rihana, you made me look up slash fiction, and I learnt something to file away for future reference. I will NOT look clueless when I hear it now! Thanks!

CrayoNess · Dec 9, 2015

Rihana said: ↑

CrayoNess, good suggestions in your post, but I have to say I was smiling to think of me or my average desi friend doing the spa-thing or hairdo's etc together with DD. The mom and daughter might practice classical music together, even perform a dance together, take those classes together... but home spa, long beauty sessions together, don't usually happen.

Just an observation. Do agree with gist of your post.
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So once again I missed the cultural aspect. Desi moms do not those kind of mom-daughter things?

Priya16 · Dec 9, 2015

vaidehi71 said: ↑

Hi,

I dont have daughters, I just gave general information only.

I have sons and it is quite hard as a mother to talk such things with boys. I am not sure whether my dh talked to them about these issues. But I did send them to safe practice education which are being taught at school here which we as parents have to give consent for the kids to participate. I did sent them to one in year 6 before they started high school. I did see the reading material which was sent after the session. It did include the anatomy of both genders and also advice regarding safe practices. It is relief because I did not have to tell, so the issue has been handled by professional as school. There was also a school based education in year 2-3 about inappropriate behaviours with regards to kids and adults. I did send my kids to that as well, because there are issues here which we know and difficult to talk with young kids. So my kids would come and tell me about the inappropriate behaviour and wat an adult cant do with them. So I was relieved not to endure talking such things as well.

With regards to your kid, the best option is at age appropriate time, take your kid to a doctor and usually they help with such issues. When I take my kid to doctor, I usually will not stay around, as I know that the doctor will also like to talk to my son in private. I will also not ask what questions the doctor asked my son as well. Usually it is confidentiality issues with doctor and they are not obliged to tell parents anything ( except abuse) that the mature adult ( which could include teens) has told them. Infact the teen has to give consent that his personal issues could be talked with his parents and then only can a doctor tell it to parents.

Since you have a daughter, you could possibly talk with her. There are plenty of online resources for you to read and when age appropriate initiate the talk, first with anatomical and physiological changes of puberty. In that way first initiate talks, then if you have not talked about inappropriate behaviour of any adult towards a child, you can point that out to her and slowly move towards that topic.

Regards,
Vaidehi
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vaidehi,
Thanks for your time and responding with detail reply.Probably, I may also fall into your parenting style where I may not able to talk or open up much with kids.But will try to improve on it as they are girls, may be needed me more.
Even I had a similar thought, to sent them for extra classes to understand things in better way.

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