Interfereing or am I thinking

yeah I agree this is kind of innocence from village people .. I know ..
is she is educated ..? If no the ans is don't take her words seriously ..

i know neighbors call each other like sister , brother like that .. We have neighbors who are very close like they enter kitchen bedroom etc .. It depends on how closeness we give each other .. City life is bit diff we know neighbors call them x aunty , y uncle but don't entertine them a lot I have seen this at my inlaws home ..

my mil only surprised to see the closeness between we n neighbors ( our case diff we are neighbors since 30 years ) so it's common for u to get annoyed ..

what about western countries we don't know who r our neighbors so he or she wil be MR X or miss y.. So things are changing according to place .. She is still there that's it ..

if u really don't like her involvement ignore she will only understand after some time ..

 

OP,

Hmm... you should nip such 'innocent' requests in the bud right away. The unstated subtext of that request is that this lady is feeling 'bad' that your 'poor' father has to make his own coffee in spite of his wife and daughter being around. Dont be silent next time. Instead tell her somewhat bluntly - you need not bother about all that. This is the way we do things at our place. You just tell do you want coffee or not, understand? May be you can soften it with abelated smile but make sure she gets the message that you will not tolerate any interference in the running of your household.

 

This is a common problem, your neighbor is home and she likes to hangout with your parents and give free advice to anyone, it looks innocent but you are the one facing it everyday so you have to decide if you are going to ignore it or do something about it.

 

She has moved from a village...she is having a tough time adjusting and she is trying to fit in...we become close to people when we share personal information...maybe she is trying to bond or fit in with the only way she knows...

Just for example...let's say we have a celebrity neighbor and sher asks the same questions and she goes to the kitchen and makes coffee...we will be raving about how simple the celebrity is...we are constantly judging people based on how they look, talk and their socio economic status. Just a different perspective for u to think about.

 

Make sure these too innocent questions raise trouble in your household..
Few Parents tend to fall for these and start comparing their children with these outsiders.. why to bring unnecessary trouble in otherwise normal home.. Its better to keep distance..

 

Sorry to have hurt you @omnam... I did not mean to hurt you, but just tried to be honest with my opinion. It is an online forum, and that's why you are here to discuss your problem.
See, I just don't want to sugarcoat, just like we do when talking to people in person. If so, the purpose of posting it online to hear honest opinion would be lost. JMO

I did not say you are jealous. I said you might be feeling jealous on this women for various reasons to feel annoyed by knowing she is naive, has family issues and she is too close to your parents anyway. That was my observation. You are free to agree to disagree here.

Further, this woman is not your friend. She is perhaps your mother's friend.

Honestly, I wouldn't feel annoyed if someone of my mom's close circle makes a cup of coffee to my mom. Coz, they might be doing the same when I am not there.
But sometimes I do feel annoyed at people who are being civil with me. It is because I am not at the right frame of mind then.
So, it is important to introspect, rather than self defense. This is a great forum to introspect your self I guess.