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How Would you Treat your Future DIL?

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by maroon, Sep 15, 2015.

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  1. Sep 16, 2015 #11
    Rihana

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    "How would I treat my future DIL?"

    I would show her all my posts in IL.. Most likely, we would both end up rolling on the floor laughing. :) At the wisdom and naivete in them.
     
    Rihana, Sep 16, 2015
    Rihana, Sep 16, 2015
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  2. Sep 16, 2015 #12
    ChennaiExpress

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    I'd use a hands-off approach.

    Let them go honeymoon, outing, etc, etc. 365 days a year

    Let them live separate or if they live with me let them have separate compartment.

    As long as DIL is good to my son (who will have manners and behave like a grown man) and good to her children I am totally hands off.

    Besides I have my own life, my own hobbies and interests.
     
    ChennaiExpress, Sep 16, 2015
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  3. Sep 16, 2015 #13
    maroon

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    Quite a practical approach:thumbsup
     
    maroon, Sep 16, 2015
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  4. Sep 16, 2015 #14
    maroon

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    Wow!! Nice Shyamala.. whoever is that lucky DIL :) :)
     
    maroon, Sep 16, 2015
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  5. Sep 16, 2015 #15
    Anamika99

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    Treating....
    With love and respect as any family member that is all i would want
    give her space and that is what i want in return

    Living...
    I feel 'ek myan do talwar' is not possible...so i donot believe me as a DIL or MIL sharing my home with another lady...

    some phone calls , a few short visits, access to grand kids, turning to each other without hesitation for help that is all.

    Just wish i can grow older healthy and die healthy so do not have to go to them for 'seva'
     
    Anamika99, Sep 16, 2015
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  6. Sep 16, 2015 #16
    maroon

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    True Charu. Respect would pave way for everything else positive in a relationship.
     
    maroon, Sep 16, 2015
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    Sunrise

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    We will not live together and let them live on their own terms. May be we will celebrate festivals, have regular get togethers if they like to join else we will have our own things to do. Needless to say, we will support them whenever they are in need of any help.
    My plan is to help poor kids study, help orphan kids and do some farming in my old age, I am sure I will not have to time poke my nose into their life.
     
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    maroon

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    Yes. If ILs realize that they need to have a life of their own things would be so much more easier. @docathome, Indusladies would still be there for us when we all don the MIL role.. we ought to come back and refer to these posts!
     
    maroon, Sep 16, 2015
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    maroon

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    You gave me a hearty laugh:rotfl
     
    maroon, Sep 16, 2015
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  10. Sep 16, 2015 #20
    Laks09

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    Just like mine treats me and hers treated her, no different. As a daughter when it comes to me showing affection/doing my duty but never expecting to take her mother's place when it comes to her bonding with her mom.
     
    Laks09, Sep 16, 2015
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