Divorce looks imminent...suggestions please

I don't think he needs to be a citizen in this case....just the kid.

 

You need to get legal help in india asap. aslo contact men help organizations in India and get their help. Dont wait and watch. Does not matter you or your parents are at fault or not, but can easily be jailed in dowry or domestic violence cases.

 

like others said, you need to get professional, legal help at this point. you should have a paper trail of the money you sent there, she just up and left without informing you of her intent to stay back. it is not in the scope of this forum to give advise at this stage. i am surprised you are here instead of getting help and addressing this in the proper manner!

 

if you are in denial mode, i think your latest update shows things have gone ahead of the reconciliation stage.

 

Underhill now you are finally telling some truth. you made it seem that your side of the family was very innocent. Finally you are admitting some guilt over how you may have treated her. You can only poke a puppy so much until it will bark and fight back.

I think there way too many people involved in this 'holy matrimony' of yours. If you want a life with her, and you can live with the fact that your family will hate her for the rest of your life. Then be a MAN apologize for your mistakes, go back to india, face her and bring her back.

If you think this marriage is OVER, which I think is better for both of you. Then be a MAN and go back to india and deal with this matter and close it with the help of a legal team.

Either way, walk back home with some pride and dignity.

Stop listening to your relatives and involving them. You are living this life, not them, not your brother, etc. Let me also guess that you had a son? The way you make things sound, I don't think your mother would care to see the baby if it was a daughter.

Your family is selfish as well, they only want the son from her. Basically take HER CHILD away from her. And your family is only listening when she threatens them with taking the child.

I think your "wife" is acting out of anger. There are some deep rooted issues here. I don't think any woman just walks into a marriage, wanting to have a baby and make her and her husband's life miserable afterwards. She is probably suffering just as much.

And now you have a relative basically telling you not to visit india.

Be a MAN, talk to her ALONE, and deal with this. I hate to be blunt, but as a man let me tell you that you look pathetic in this situation. You have your family filling your head with crap, and then she has her family filling her head with crap. You are at a stalemate.

Take it from me, go to a lawyer, get your facts/paper correct and start the proceedings. She can't keep the child away from you, laws won't allow that.

When all this is said and done you will be in a much happier place.

And please for god's sake stop involving other people. You are just a story for them to gossip about, thats all. Your family sees her as the evil one, her family sees you as the evil one. Nobody suffers except both of you and the poor child you brought in this world.

Be a MAN, and start acting like one. Only you are responsible for your own fate.

Why are you demanding the money back, let her have it, who cares? The problem with you is, that you know that you are guilty and play some part in her behavior. But now you see that so many people are involved, you don't know if you can go back to living with her, without everyone looking at you with shame.