Parenting an only child vs two or more children - Your views

As such there is no guarantee for anything in life, there are single kids who regret their parents' decision of not having had another child and they are all alone! Its just personal circumstances or personal choice. Whatever is most convenient for the parents.

 

In spite of all the problems mentioned in Fbs I still feel one should have two children. They would have companionship when they grow (especially when parents are not there anymore, they are a support system for each other. They learn sharing from childhood, doing things together , adjustments, comromising and many valuable lessons and values in life. I am all for two kids...girls or boys, it doesn't matter. Both may be natural, adopted...anything is o.k.

Syamala

 

I have only one daughter. Although she gets the attention of both parents, I feel that time spent with our kids is never enough. I want to talk and do meaningful things with her every time I get a chance.

I don't think I can stretch myself for two kids.

 

Having a sibling is like ...WOW feeling..
When after office hours I go home and see my 5 yrs old baby playing with my infant li'l son, its like a satisfied feeling. In every task my elder one seeks togetherness with his little brother.. be it sleeping, playing, smiling, eating ..whatver.
2 years back, he had started saying ..whom should i play with. there is no1 in the park today.

Alongwith this. when we see todayz life where everybody is goin to live in a nuclear set up, there is no cousins feeling left too. SO, there should be sum1 whom you can call at any point of time in life.. be it midnight.. u cry together, u have deep emotions for each other.. u like each others smiling face.. multiple reasons to have a sibling..

I am very happy to have 2 kids. I feel myself happy to c them doing everything together and in a masti way too.

 

i always wanted a bigger family, as both my dh and i are from family of 3 siblings. and i wanted to have 4 kids, we have 2 boys and im 34 this year. i dont think i can have 2 more kids now so will settle with one more kid (preferably a gal).

toddlers are difficult to manage and control, but once they are in school going age it will wonderful to watch them growing up.

 

my take is simple ,if you think logically, having even one child is difficult with violence everywhere, high cost of living ,career,no grandparents to support & so on ......and I know atleast one couple who think along these lines & are yet to have their 1st child even after 5 yrs of marriage...

but its just upto you to decide whether your family is complete with one(and it can be no doubts about it) or is their space for one -two more.....and honestly once you have another child ,you never regret that decision but having only child will definitely bring regrets many times over and over in coming years whether you accept it loudly or keep it inside your heart.........

I have 2 sons & I had decided even as young teenager that I will have atleast 2 ....... a most wise decision I took even as naïve teenager.......

 

Its my personal opinion only:

When something BIG (good or bad) happens in the family, the only person who can understand what exactly you are feeling; is a sibling. eg; when dad buys a new car, dad may feel happy and proud,mother feels secure and loved...but kids have the same feeling of JOY...they can understand you better than even parents, when it comes to family issues.

I had a looooooong thought about having a second one, but I wanted my first (and second) feel the sibling likeness and love. I have 2 children. 7 yrs apart. Now I see that my second baby feels that she OWNS her bro and my first one has so much love to give! its amazing.