How to avoid an argument that is very likely to occur?

She cries if her opinion is not considered? Or she cries because you get heated up as the argument proceeds?
Case 1: leave the discussion for some time, let things cool down and then discuss again until you find common grounds. Also consider opinions on both your views from the house architect, engineer etc. which would help you choose a common ground.
Case 2: If the crying session is because you get heated up, leave the discussion as soon as you feel you are heating up and come back to the issue once again after you have cooled down.
Even we had major arguments when DH and me constructed our home. But, we did arrive at common grounds (in some cases one of us compromised, like for things related to kitchen he gave up and for stuff related to material to be used etc I gave up) in consultation with our architect's and engineer's opinions. Now, when we look back, we feel that each of us has done the right thing to make the project a success, and it would have been silly and foolish if we had not considered and discussed/ compromised for one another.
Good luck!

 

My vote goes to this comment.Very practical.

All the threads?? Really?? :spin:
You have some good amount of patience lady.
Here i start yawning at all the suggestions which are longer than 10lines....thats why i regularly read your 1liners.:biggrin2:

 

better to maintain silence

 

Superlike....

i dont know if its my laziness that extends to my reading posts here Or is it because i read on small mobile screens.....but whatever the reason might be,i just skip reading long essays.
There are very few users whose essays i read.....hmmm...like Ansuya....then rihana(though she rarely posts more than 10lines)...Naksh(his hilarious posts can never get boring).....Quebec(for his saintly posts)....Anitap(shes the female equivalent of Naksh).
But yes there some posts which can keep you gripped....so i do read those rare gems too.

Ohhh lazzyyyy me.:roll:

 

Try to decide on things you both like or at least can learn to like. Try to find common ground. If you dont like something she likes very much, tell her "lets keep looking more and find something we both like" . May take more time, but finally it will be soemthing both like. It is after all your house. You both need to love it. This takes patience but you may start enjoying the process later on.

 

Correction: you are not WEEPING you are RANTING at me:evil:
And yes i have read all your posts in this thread and thats the reason i gave a like to one of them.But the members whose names i had specified,i never miss their posts is what i meant.

Now read the title of this thread again
"How to avoid an argument that is very likely to occur?".......well i think i need some suggestions here,because i know you will come and pick on my post again.:biggrin2:
(now lets stop digressing this thread....OP needs some serious suggestions.
sorry OP)

 

Am not qualified to comment on this but still wishing a better scenario in your case if possible:

Construction of peace at home is the need of the hour than constructing a place to live in peace, if that is possible. Communicate keeping aside emotions.

 

Helplessness? May be she is a timid person, unable to take a stand and more importantly 'stick by it'? Has she been raised by dominating parents? That may explain her reaction.

In that case, may be you give a patient listening to her. Make her feel that her opinions count. Appreciate where her points have been good and have been accepted adn implemented.

where they are rejected, explain to her the reason so she does not feel 'she is always shot down'

 

Dear Victory,
You have good writing skills, few are good at such descriptive narratives.
Please do not turn your relationship with your DW into filling up questionaires ,no need to sit and write a question paper.
She does not need lectures ,just reassurances and TLC.
Generally DH's ignore crying bouts.
Why would a DW cry if DH has trouble locating an address,sounds fishy.
Get her eyes checked, maybe its an infection.