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Can I ever forgive myself ???

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by anika987, Oct 27, 2013.

  1. anika987

    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    Today due to a big fight with hubby coz of inlaws..ad mist the fight I used cuss words about them.i feel so terrible now.No matter how bad they have been,I should have given respect to her age.I do not even feel like thinking or entering the pooja area.I am just ridden with guilt as I do not like using cuss words especially about elders.I feel like a bad person.I think I acted cheap.Just felt like venting it out..

    Hope I can forgive myself soon.
     
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  2. luckysangeetha

    luckysangeetha Gold IL'ite

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    go and ask sorry to them it will heal this guilty feel soon and express whats in ur mind ....
     
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    flowerlady IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear friend,
    Words do more harm than anything else and are difficult to forget and forgive.
    You should express sincere regrets to your DH and promise to give PILS respect.
    You can also show respect in your daily behaviour which will show real repentence.
    Its good that you realised your mistake and are regretting unlike others who carry on badmouthing .
    PS-No need to apologise to PILs if you said it in their absence.
     
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    sumalynux IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear Aruna

    I feel its not good to ask sorry to your in-laws(as u dint scold them
    directly nor they know this) By asking sorry they will come to know
    that you scolded them.. Trust me now they might act good n "forgive"
    later they will use it against u.. "remember ur wife scolded us........."

    So better is just apologies to ur dh saying you dint mean those
    words, and you were just hurt... And next time would control
    your anger..That wise ur dh would know your not happy
    about what u said, and he wud forget it..

    Its ok dont worry too much over it..
    "Whatever told in anger doesn't have meaning "
     
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    gauridinesh Platinum IL'ite

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    as long as they dont know about it, dont worry about it. Just apologize to ur husband. That should be it.
     
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    goodold Senior IL'ite

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    Dear OP, Yea i know the feeling. But tell me, was it out of anger or do you really feel this way? If it was just anger then leave it. If you really feel this way about you MIL then you need to talk to your DH about how you really feel, and ask him to help you out.
     
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    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    it was just out of anger ...
     
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    rachaputi Platinum IL'ite

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    self realization is better than punishment
     
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    yellowmango IL Hall of Fame

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    Don't beat yourself too much.How often do ILs feel this guilty about abusing Dils. You made a mistake and you realize and regret it. It is more than the Ils will ever feel. You can talk it out with your husband...if needed apologize and then forget it. No need to apologize to anyone else...it happened between you two and should be sorted out between you two. If your husband is mature and wants to keep peace between you and his parents,he will never mention this to them.
     
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    heron Platinum IL'ite

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    you have good values...just let your husband know that you feel guilty.
     
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