No Romance!

I am married for 5 years and hav a 2 yr old son.
There is no romance in my marriage.Love making have also reduced.
There was a phase a year ago when I would just crave to make love.I even tried initiating but he would just not be interested. I felt so ashamed and insulted.
Over past 6 months, we would have made love three or four times and that too over my insistance. I feel awful doing so. I have always wanted my man to make the first move How I wish to get a hug from him sometimes or a sweet peck...I crave for all these and end up depressed...Over the past 5 years he has never ever got me a gift on my birthday or anniversary.He was never the romantic sort, but we used to make out once a week or so before our son was born.

Now he is quite a laid back person...lost in his own thoughts mostly.He speaks less and doesnt share a lot with me.He close to his family and I often feel he is more open to them.

I have tried a lot to pep him up...i blab like a parrot to him atleast start some conversation, he would just hear and smile! I am kinda tired now. I once kept quiet for along time to see how far it can go...well, soon I realised it can go forever...we actually spent 45 mins in car without speakng a word to each other.He is just not bothered.What is a relationship without a conversation? I feel there is no emotional connect between us.

I used to think its the work pressure...but whats when its a long weekend and u hav no work to do.
He is a handsome man.I am just a plain girl who has put more weight after the baby and is in bad shape I wonder if that is the reason!

I long for a romantic relationship.Its not just the sex but I crave for a hug and some heart to heart talk.
I dont understand how it wil be after years down the lane when its so bad now.

Can I do something to bring a change in him and our love life?
TIA.

 

I tried tried and tried...looks like his nature wil not chnage for anyone!
Well what i wrote abt "45 mins of silence" was after a late night movie "The lunchbox"
I thot atleast that movie will put some brainers in him
he even asked me during the scene where the actress tries to make her move towards her uninterested husband..."Am i worse than him". I ddnt reply.

 

I assume ur a guy.
Can u really throw some light as to what is that guys want?? Is it with age they lose interest?

 

Hi Sadwife,

I have tried it indirectly...he just seems to ignore my questions. I feel like a fool.He is not the kind who would open up and speak! I feel so suffocated with his "zipped lip" attitude